I have been in recovery for over a year and I am feeling a bit low lately. I guess I had high hopes that if we really worked on our marriage that "in love" feeling would return. I am not talking about the chemical lust feeling that one gets in a new relationship.

It just seems that I now know that if we did end up divorced I would be okay and I think my H has this same feeling, although neither of us would admit that to each other. I think I could honestly say ILYBINILWY right now and I am not having an A in any way shape or form.

I really do love my H, but it just feels like something is missing. Like a part of me died and I will never be whole again.

I think this sounds weird as I write it and I am just wondering if this is normal for this point in recovery or if any of you have felt this way? And if you did feel this way, did it ever get better?

I guess I just thought that if we worked at meeting each other needs that "in love" feeling would return. I just realized as I wrote that that I never had that expectation prior to our separation. Do I just have too high of expectations? Should I just be happy that we get along great and work hard at meeting each other needs and that our daughter is the happiest she has ever been?