I don't have a BS/WS song because I am neither but I have always associated songs with people/events. Our wedding song is the Ramones what I like about you (we are a little quirky) We had a rough time from July 04-July 06. Short story, DH looses his job can't find one for a year gets depressed. Finds one 1400 miles away I get depressed and gain 40+ pounds. Break my ankle trying to get back into shape, we move back home a year later lots of stress. So I was listening to the radio one day and I hear a song that suits us to a tee. I told DH about it and when it was on the radio and I knew he was driving I called him and had him put it on. He agreed it was a great one for us. After all the chaos over the past few years we treasure just laying together.

Chasing cars by Snow Patrol
We'll do it all
Everything
On our own

We don't need
Anything
Or anyone

If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me and just forget the world?

I don't quite know
How to say
How I feel

Those three words
I've said too much
But not enough

If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me and just forget the world?

Forget what we're told
Before we get too old
Show me your garden that's bursting into life

Let's waste time
Chasing cars
Around our heads

I need your grace
To remind me
To find my own

If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me and just forget the world?

Forget what we're told
Before we get too old
Show me your garden that's bursting into life

All that I am
All that I ever was
It's here in your perfect eyes
They're all I can see

I don't know where
Confused about how as well
Just know that these things
Will never change for us at all

If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me and just forget the world?

Other songs are about people I have lost.

My uncle died suddenly when I was 18. He was like a second father to me. Every time I hear fire and rain I think about him especially the line "But I always thought that I would see you again." His was the first real loss I had felt and it was a big one for me.

Dido's my lover's gone makes me think about my FIL because he was a sailor (WWII) and my MIL always refered to him as her sailor boy. It is a very sad song.
My Lover's Gone

My lover's gone
His boots no longer by my door
He left at dawn
And as I slept I felt him go
Returns no more
I will not watch the ocean
My lover's gone
No earthly ships will ever bring him home again
Bring him home again

My lover's gone
I know that kiss will be my last
No more his song
The tune upon his lips has passed

I sing alone
While I watch the ocean
My lover's gone
No earthly ships will ever bring him home again
Bring him home again

The real tear jerker was she had a "sailor song" she used to sing to him. He was dying of cancer and we knew it would be that night. He was in the bedroom and there was a monitor in there so if no one was in there we could hear him if he needed us. Just before he passed she was holding his hand and singing the song. Their kids were in the other room and heard her on the monitor. Makes me cry to think about it to this day.....speaking of that I just realized today is April 1st. He died April 1st 2001.

Thought it would be fitting to do a Dashboard Confessional song since that's where I got my handle from.

I love this song...it's to the unrepentant WS.

"Little Bombs"
by Dashboard Confessional



How can you ask for forgiveness,
So now you think that your crimes are victim less?
I know you and your sins,
Your retributions,
So how will you lay your penance down?
We all pay in time,
So how will you clear your conscience when your clock unwinds?

I've heard enough of your forked tongue,
How do you know when the cuts are deep enough?
I know you like your stabs,
Your pre-emptive attacks,
But how will you hold your demons down?
We're all judged in time,
How can you seek redemption using alibis?

You oughta know better than to bait your jailer,
You oughta know,
You oughta know better.

How do you deal with the consequence,
Now that we bear the weight of your arrogance?
I know you and your cons,
Your petty little bombs,
But who will you blame your troubles on now?
We all pay in time,
So how will you clear your conscience when your lies unwind?

You oughta know better than to bait your jailer.
You oughta know better than to test your luck.
You oughta know better than to bite who feeds 'ya.
You oughta know, you oughta know better...

How can you ask for forgiveness,
How can you think that your crimes are victim less,
I know you and your sins,
Your retributions,
So how will you lay your penance down?
We're all judged in time,
So how will you clear your conscience when your lies unwind?

Ok, here's mine...IT's by Taylor Swift and it's from the OW's perspective. She's bummed that he's otherwise 'in love'.




Drew looks at me, I fake a smile so he won't see
That I want and I need everything that we should be
I'll bet she's beautiful, that girl he talks about
And she's got everything that I have to live without

Drew talks to me, I laugh cause it's just so funny
That I can't even see anyone when he's with me
He says he's so in love, he's finally got it right,
I wonder if he knows he's all I think about at night

[Chorus:]

He's the reason for the teardrops on my guitar
The only thing that keeps me wishing on a wishing star
He's the song in the car I keep singing, don't know why I do

Drew walks by me, can he tell that I can't breathe?
And there he goes, so perfectly,
The kind of flawless I wish I could be
She'd better hold him tight, give him all her love
Look in those beautiful eyes and know she's lucky cause

[Repeat Chorus]

So I drive home alone, as I turn out the light
I'll put his picture down and maybe
Get some sleep tonight

He's the reason for the teardrops on my guitar
The only one who's got enough of me to break my heart
He's the song in the car I keep singing, don't know why I do
He's the time taken up, but there's never enough
And he's all that I need to fall into..

Drew looks at me, I fake a smile so he won't see.

When I met my W 34 years ago, she was a fundo Christian. She still has a few Larry Norman albums that I rather liked, though I wasn't ever quite as fundamental as she was at the time.

Here's a rather chilling song of his:

Larry Norman, "Be careful what you sign"

"I was walking down the road when i bumped into you.
I was walking down the road when i bumped into you.
You stopped me.
You touched me.
You looked me in the eye.
I had a feeling that you knew me.
I decided you must die.
I pulled out my Thornton Special.
I shot you in the head.
I threw you in the alley way and i left you for dead.

Then a man with a hat came up from behind.
The sky went black and i thought i was blind.
He put his hand inside my jacket and left a million dollar bills.
He slipped his hand into my pocket and gave me women and thrills.
And when i turned around to thank him there was no one there but me.
And both my hands where filled with sand, i was standing by the sea.

We had a dinner at eight and women at nine.
The party was great till we ran out of wine.
There was a knock upon the bedroom door.
My knees began to shake.
And this man came in and melted all the candles on my cake.
He said "i've come here to escort you. It's time for you to go."
He reached into my body and he took away my soul.

I was running down the road.
I was running down the road!
I was trying to leave.
And i saw you all alone in between the thieves.
And when the lightning flashed i saw somebody hanging from a tree.
And as i turned to walk away i realized it was me!
I pulled out my Thornton Special.
I shot me in the head.
I threw me in the alley way and i left me for dead.

down the road
down the road"

-ol' 2long

Hey not2,

Yeah, I know what you guys mean about that. It was a big thing for Mr. Gray and Slag. There are lots of bands that I'm trying to get back.

I tried NOT to listen when he was in his "cave" talking to her and blasting everything but couldn't help but hear it sometimes.

They got real big into swapping mp3s and OWH is a DJ who has TONS of music so it was a BIG thing.

But over the weekend I took back The Doors, dang it!! And that was a tough one because WE liked to listen to them together and then he took them and listened with her.

Well....HA!!! That's what I have to say!!! They are MINE again!!!

Take THAT...you rat *******, Gray!!!!!

Charlotte

Oh and here is another one by Dido for a BW who's WH has an affair and there is an OC. I bolded my favorite part.

All you want...
I'd like to watch you sleep at night
to hear you breathe by my side
And though sleep leaves me behind
there's nowhere I'd rather be
And now our bed is oh so cold
my hands feel empty
no one to hold
I can sleep what side I want
It's not the same with you gone
Oh if you'd come home
I'll let you know that
All you want
Is right here in this room
All you need
Is sitting here with you
All you want

It's been three years
One night apart
but in that night you tore my heart
If only you had slept alone
If those seeds had not been sown

Oh you could come home and you would know that
All you want
Is right here in this room
All you need
Is sitting here with you
All you want

I hear your key turning in the door
I won't be hearing that sound anymore
And you and your sin
can leave the way you just came in
send my regards to her

I hope you've found that
All you want
Is right there in that room
All you need
Is sitting there with you
All you want

I'd like to watch you sleep at night
to hear you breathe by my side

One more...can't help myself. This album came out right about the time of D-day and this song really meant a lot to me. Felt like it was speaking directly to me.

"Shade Of Poison Trees"
by Dashboard Confessional



If you knew,
What I know,
Would you try?
Before your time
Has run on you
And worn you down

Would you know,
What you desire,
In your heart?

If you knew,
What I know,
Would you try?

Is there time?
Is there time?
To follow just one desire?

Is there time?
Is there time,
To follow your heart?

Dress your wounds
Test your strength
Face the night

Crave the touch
Feel the pain
Know the signs

Is there truth,
In your pain?
You decide

If you knew,
What I know,
Would you try?

Is there time?
Is there time?
To follow just one desire?

Is there time?
Is there time,
To follow your heart?

As we lie
In the shade
Of poison trees

Are we as safe
As we let
Ourselves believe?

I ADORE the 'Dan


And you can dance to it !

Hey Char....




You put the smile on my face that I SO desperately needed today....thanks.....

I will say, that I wouldn't "give up" Nickleback.....They can have the other song ( ), but Nickleback belongs to me....

Anyway, I really don't let music triggers get to me though. I just love it way too much. I will say what really helped me at first with music was that my initial Dday was Thanksgiving weekend. Here we have a soft rock station that plays nothing but XMas music from Thanksgiving till Xmas and that was the station I kept it on ALWAYS that first awful month. By the time the Xmas stuff was over, I was emotionally stronger to go back to regular music......

not2fun

"Heart of the Matter" by Don Henley






I got the call today, I didn't wanna hear
But I knew that it would come
An old true friend of ours was talkin' on the phone
She said you found someone
And I thought of all the bad luck,
And all the struggles we went through
How I lost me and you lost you
What are these voices outside love's open door
Make us throw off our contentment
And beg for something more?

I've been learning to live without you now
But I miss you sometimes
The more I know, the less I understand
All the things I thought I knew, I'm learning them again
I've been tryin' to get down to the Heart of the Matter
But my will gets weak
And my thoughts seem to scatter
But I think it's about forgiveness
Forgiveness
Even if, even if you don't love me anymore

These times are so uncertain
There's a yearning undefined
And people filled with rage
We all need a little tenderness
How can love survive in such a graceless age
And the trust and self-assurance that lead to happiness
They're the very things we kill, I guess
Pride and competition cannot fill these empty arms
And the work they put between us,
You know it doesn't keep us warm

I've been trying to live without you now
But I miss you, baby
The more I know, the less I understand
And all the things I thought I figured out, I have to learn again
I've been tryin' to get down to the Heart of the Matter
But my will gets weak
And my heart is so shattered
But I think it's about forgiveness
Forgiveness
Even if, even if you don't love me anymore

All the people in your life who've come and gone
They let you down, you know they hurt your pride
Better put it all behind you; cause life goes on
You keep carrin' that anger, it'll eat you up inside

I wanna be happily everafter
And my heart is so shattered
But I know it's about forgiveness
Forgiveness
Even if, even if you don't love me anymore

I've been tryin' to get down to the Heart of the Matter
Because the flesh will get weak
And the ashes will scatter
So I'm thinkin' about forgiveness
Forgiveness
Even if you don't love me anymore
Even if you don't love me anymore

Oldie, but goodie




"Take It On The Run" - REO Speedwagon.

Heard it from a friend who
Heard it from a friend who
Heard it from another you been messin around
They say you got a boy friend
Youre out late every weekend
Theyre talkin about you and its bringin me down

But I know the neighborhood
And talk is cheap when the story is good
And the tales grow taller on down the line
But Im telling you, babe
That I dont think its true, babe
And even if it is keep this in mind

You take it on the run baby
If thats the way you want it baby
Then I dont want you around
I dont believe it
Not for a minute
Youre under the gun so you take it on the run

Youre thinking up your white lies
Youre putting on your bedroom eyes
You say youre coming home but you wont say when
But I can feel it coming
If you leave tonight keep running
And you need never look back again

Heard it from a friend who
Heard it from a friend who
Heard it from another you been messin around

Four years on from D-day I have no music triggers at all. OM and Squids main "song" was "ain't nobody" by Chaka Khan, and I've rescued it again as one my my favourite songs.

I grove on it without hurting.

Why should the devil have all the good music ?

This one kinda makes me laugh. WW used to turn the dial on the radio, because she "hated" this song 'cause it was about a cheating husband. Oh, how the mighty have fallen.




"Lips of an Angel" by Hinder

honey why you calling me so late?
It's kinda hard to talk right now
Honey why are you crying is everything okay
I gotta whisper cause I can't be too loud
Well, my girl's in the next room
Sometimes I wish she was you
I guess we never really moved on
It's really good to hear your voice saying my name
It sounds so sweet
Coming from the lips of an angel
Hearing those words it makes me weak
And I never wanna say goodbye
But girl you make it hard to be faithful
With the lips of an angel

It's funny that you're calling me tonight
And yes I've dreamt of you too
And does he know you're talking to me
Will it start a fight
No I don't think she has a clue
Well my girl's in the next room
Sometimes I wish she was you
I guess we never really moved on
It's really good to hear your voice saying my name
It sounds so sweet
Coming from the lips of an angel
Hearing those words it makes me weak
And I never wanna say goodbye
But girl you make it hard to be faithful
With the lips of an angel

It's really good to hear your voice saying my name
It sounds so sweet
Coming from the lips of an angel
Hearing those words it makes me weak
And I never wanna say goodbye
But girl you make it hard to be faithful
With the lips of an angel
(And I never wanna say goodbye)
But girl you make it hard to be faithful
With the lips of an angel
honey why you calling me so late?

Here we go, an oldie I've always associated with.

Especially now that I've lived it. Especially the bullet part.



Kate Bush

It doesn't hurt me.
You want to feel, how it feels?
You want to know, know that it doesn't hurt me?
You want to hear about the deal I'm making.
You, (If I only could, be running up that hill)
You and me (If I only could, be running up that hill)

And if I only could,
Make a deal with God,
Get him to swap our places,
Be running up that road,
Be running up that hill,
Be running up that building.
If I only could

You don't want to hurt me,
But see how deep the bullet lies.
Unaware that I'm tearing you asunder.
There's a thunder in our hearts, baby

So much hate for the ones we love?
Tell me, we both matter, don't we?
You, (If I only could, be running up that hill)
You and me (If I only could, be running up that hill)
You and me, won't be unhappy

And if I only could,
Make a deal with God,
And get him to swap our places,
Be running up that road,
Be running up that hill,
Be running up that building.
If I only could


Come on, baby, come on, come on, darling,
Let me steal this moment from you now.
Come on angel, come on, come on, darling,
Let's exchange the experience

And if I only could,
Make a deal with God,
And get him to swap our places,
Be running up that road,
Be running up that hill,
With no problems.

And if I only could,
Make a deal with God,
And I'd get him to swap our places,
Be running up that road,
Be running up that hill,
With no problems.

If I only could, be running up that hill
If I only could, be running up that hill

"Hey Joe" by Jimmy Hendrix



Hey Joe, where you goin' with that gun in your hand
Hey Joe, I said where you goin' with that gun in your hand

I'm going down to shoot my old lady
You know, I've caught her messin' around with another man
I'm going down to shoot my old lady
You know, I've caught her messin' around with another man
And that ain't too cool

Hey Joe, I've heard you shot your woman down,
Shot her down, now
I said I've heard you shot your old lady down,
You shot her down to the ground

Yes I did, I shot her
You know, I caught her messin' round, messin' round town
Yes I did, I shot her
You know, I caught my old lady messin' around town
And I gave her the gun
I SHOT HER!

Hey Joe, alright
Shoot her one more time, baby

Hey Joe, said now
Where you gonna run to now?
Where you gonna run to?
Hey Joe, I said where you gonna run to now?
Where you, where you gonna go?
Well, dig it

I'm goin' way down south,
Way down to Mexico way
Alright!
I'm goin' way down south,
Way down where I can be free
Ain't no one gonna find me

Ain't no hangman gonna,
He ain't gonna put a rope around me
You better believe it right now
I gotta go now
Hey Joe, you better run on down
Good by everybody
Hey Joe, uhh
Run on down

I.......can't........stop.....laughing!!!!!

Pretty demented infidelity song...but a song nevertheless. lol

Let's just see how deep this rabbit hole goes!


G&R

I Used to Love Her


I used to love her, but i had to kill her
I used to love her, but i had to kill her
I had to put her
Six feet under
And i can still hear her complain


I used to love her, but i had to kill her
I used to love her, but i had to kill her
I knew i miss her
So i had to keep her
She's buried right in my back yard


I used to love her, but i had to kill her
I used to love her, but i had to kill her
She bitched so much
She drove me nuts
And now i'm happier this way


I used to love her, but i had to kill her
I used to love her, but i had to kill her
I had to put her
Six feet under
And i can still hear her complain

YAAAAAAAY!!! You're welcome!!

Yeah, I hear ya'. I was really worried about the music triggers, too, at first. One that was a main one for them also was Pink Floyd's "Wish You Were Here."

One of my fave PF's, too. But I think I can actually handle it now!!

In fact, it's playing in my head right now and I'm not even trying to make it stop!! YAAAY!!!!

Thanks, not2! I would not have thought of it and conquered it if it hadn't been for you!!

I think I'm going to go see if I can find it right now!! Give it the big test!!



Charlotte

Great song !!!

It's Guns 'n' Roses though...I think.