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Four years on from D-day I have no music triggers at all. OM and Squids main "song" was "ain't nobody" by Chaka Khan, and I've rescued it again as one my my favourite songs.
Quando sono solo Sogno allorizzonte E mancan le parole Si lo so che non c? luce In una stanza Quando manca il sole Se non ci sei tu con me, con me. Su le finestre Mostra a tutti il mio cuore Che hai acceso Chiudi dentro me La luce che Hai incontrato per strada
Con Te Partiro Paesi che non ho mai Veduto e vissuto con te Adesso si li vivro. Con te partiro Su navi per mari Che io lo so No no non esistono piu Its time to say goodbye.
Quando sei lontana Sogno allorizzonte E mancan le parole E io si lo so Che sei con me con me Tu mia luna tu sei qui con me Mio sole tu sei qui con me Con me con me con me
Con Te Partiro Paesi che non ho mai Veduto e vissuto con te Adesso si li vivro. Con te partiro Su navi per mari Che io lo so No no non esistono piu Con te io li rivivro. Con te partiro Su navi per mari Che io lo so No no non esistono piu Con te io li rivivro. Con te partiro Io con te.
Time to say goodbye
English version.......
When Im alone I dream on the horizon And words fail; Yes, I know there is no light In a room Where the sun is not there If you are not with me. At the windows Show everyone my heart Which you set alight; Enclose within me The light you Encountered on the street.
Time to say goodbye, To countries I never Saw and shared with you, Now, yes, I shall experience them, Ill go with you On ships across seas Which, I know, No, no, exist no longer; With you I shall experience them.
When you are far away I dream on the horizon And words fail, And yes, I know That you are with me; You, my moon, are here with me, My sun, you are here with me. With me, with me, with me,
Time to say goodbye, To countries I never Saw and shared with you, Now, yes, I shall experience them, Ill go with you On ships across seas Which, I know, No, no, exist no longer; With you I shall re-experience them. Ill go with you On ships across seas Which, I know, No, no, exist no longer; With you I shall re-experience them. Ill go with you, I with you.
Last edited by introvert; 07/01/0803:20 PM. Reason: sp
"Rather than love, than money, than fame, give me truth"
I like country and BOY do they have some cheatin' songs.
Taylor Swift Lyrics - Should’ve Said No
It’s strange to think the songs we used to sing The smiles, the flowers, everything…is gone Yesterday I found about you even now just looking at you, feels wrong you say that you’d take it all back, given one chance it was a moment of weakness and you said yes
Chorus You should’ve said no, you should’ve gone home You should’ve thought twice before you let it all go You shouldn’ve known that word, bout what you did with her woulds get back to me… and I should’ve been there, in the back of your mind I shouldn’t be asking myself why You shouldn’t be begging for forgiveness at my feet… You should’ve said no, baby and you might still have me
You can see that I’ve been crying And baby you know all the right things to say But do you honestly except me to believe We could ever be the same You say that the past is the past, you need one chance It was a moment of weakness and you said yes
Chorus You should’ve said no, you should’ve gone home You should’ve thought twice before you let it all go You shouldn’ve known that word, bout what you did with her woulds get back to me… and I should’ve been there, in the back of your mind I shouldn’t be asking myself why You shouldn’t be begging for forgiveness at my feet… You should’ve said no, baby and you might still have me
i can’t resist, before you go, tell me this was it worth it was she worth this…
no…no no no…
Chorus You should’ve said no, you should’ve gone home You should’ve thought twice before you let it all go You shouldn’ve known that word, bout what you did with her woulds get back to me… and I should’ve been there, in the back of your mind I shouldn’t be asking myself why You shouldn’t be begging for forgiveness at my feet… You should’ve said no, baby and you might still have me
Yeah, I like Kenny Rogers but there's that song, "Daytime Friends and Nighttime (sp?) Lovers"...I tried listening to that one day and I couldn't do it.
But I think that one is out just on general principles.
"Lucille," however, is a good one for this thread.
Have you ever heard "Man to Man" by Gary Allan? It ticks me off!
It's from OM to BH.
Sickening.
I like the rhythm of the song, but the lyrics need some work.
Remind me to punch this Gary Allen guy right in the face if I ever see him. Never heard this song before, but the lyrics sure rile me up.....
You're throwin' around a lot of serious accusations Ain't too hard to tell what you're insinuatin' You think I'm the one who stole her away If not for me she'd still be yours today We're both men here so why play games Why don't we call a spade a spade
Man to man Tell me the truth, tell me Were you ever there when she needed you Man to man Look me in the eye, tell me If you really loved her Why'd you make her cry Man to man Who cheated who You're the one to blame Tell me it ain't true Man to man Man to man
Well you think all your anger is justified Me, I think, it's just your wounded pride What did you really think she was gonna do She's a real woman, not a doormat for you You want her back, but it's too late Why don't we just cut to the chase
Man to man Tell me the truth, tell me Were you ever there when she needed you Man to man Look me in the eye, tell me If you really loved her Why'd you make her cry Man to man Who cheated who You're the one to blame Tell me it ain't true Man to man
Man to man Tell me the truth, tell me Were you ever there when she needed you Man to man Look me in the eye, tell me If you really loved her Why'd you make her cry Man to man Who cheated who You're the one to blame Tell me it ain't true Man to man Man to man Man to man...to man...to man...to man...to man...to man Man to man...to man...to man...to man...to man...to man
"Rather than love, than money, than fame, give me truth"
I've always disliked Conway Twitty but one of my FAVORITE songs is:
Love to Lay You Down
There's a lot of ways of sayin' What I wanna say to you There's songs and poems and promises And dreams that might come true But I won't talk of starry skies Or moonlight on the ground I'll come right out and tell ya I just love to lay you down
Lay you down and softly whisper Pretty love words in your ear Lay you down and tell you all the things A woman likes to hear I'll let you know how much it means Just havin' you around Oh Darlin' how I'd love to lay you down
There's so many ways your sweet love's Made this house into a home You've got a way of doin' Little things that turn me on Like standin' in the kitchen In your faded cotton gown With your hair all up in curlers I'd still love to lay you down
Lay you down and softly whisper Pretty love words in your ear Lay you down and tell you all the things A woman likes to hear I'll let you know how much it means Just havin' you around I'll come right out and tell ya I just love to lay you down
When a whole lot of Decembers Are showin' in your face Your auburn hair has faded And silver takes its place You'll be just as lovely And I'll still be around And if I can I know that I'd still love to lay you down
Your cheatin' heart will tell on you Your cheatin' heart will make you weep You'll cry and cry and try to sleep But sleep won't come the whole night through Your cheatin' heart will tell on you When tears come down like falling rain You'll toss around and call my name You'll walk the floor the way I do your cheatin' heart will tell on you When tears come down... Your cheatin' heart will tell on you
Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage ********************* “In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
I have to check your song out as I absolutely love Kate Bush's "This Woman's Work". Ever heard it? Not an infidelity song...but extremely emotional nonetheless...
"This Woman's Work" Kate Bush
Pray God you can cope. I stand outside this woman's work, This woman's world. Ooh, it's hard on the man, Now his part is over. Now starts the craft of the father.
I know you have a little life in you yet. I know you have a lot of strength left. I know you have a little life in you yet. I know you have a lot of strength left.
I should be crying, but I just can't let it show. I should be hoping, but I can't stop thinking
Of all the things I should've said, That I never said. All the things we should've done, That we never did. All the things I should've given, But I didn't.
Oh, darling, make it go, Make it go away.
Give me these moments back. Give them back to me. Give me that little kiss. Give me your hand.
(I know you have a little life in you yet. I know you have a lot of strength left. I know you have a little life in you yet. I know you have a lot of strength left.)
I should be crying, but I just can't let it show. I should be hoping, but I can't stop thinking
Of all the things we should've said, That were never said. All the things we should've done, That we never did. All the things that you needed from me. All the things that you wanted for me. All the things that I should've given, But I didn't.
Oh, darling, make it go away. Just make it go away now.
This one's not an infidelity song (I'm filled with HOPE at the moment)... it's a song that just happened to come on as I was driving away from OM (does anyone here believe it's just a coincidence!??!) and back TO my husband. It just keeps making me cry!!!
~ Elle
We Build – Nichole Nordeman
It's bigger than we thought
 It's taller than it ought to be
 This pile of rubble and ruins
The neighbors must talk
 It's the worst yard on the block
 Just branches and boards where walls stood
Did it seem to you
 Like the storm just knew
 We weren't quite finished with the roof
 When it started?
So we build
 We build
 We clear away what was and make room for what will be

If you hold the nails, I'll take the hammer
 I'll hold it still, if you'll climb the ladder
 If you will, then I will, build
On any given day
 We could simply walk away
 And let someone else hold the pieces
The lie that we tell
 Says its better somewhere else
 As if love flies south when it freezes
What I'm trying to say
 In some clumsy way
 Is that it's you and only you for always What I'm trying to say
 In some clumsy way
 Is that its you and only you, not just for now, not just today
 But its you and only you for always
Me (FWW) - 27 PeterSee (BH) - 39 Married Nov 2000... (My second marriage, his first)
2 kids... DD from previous marriage, age 8 DS, age 6
NC with OM since 30-Jun-08 Made contact via text and phone (twice) on 2-Jul-08, said our goodbyes.
If you take me back Back to your place I'll try not to bother you I promise
Cause it's colder here And I wish it was hot The sink's broke It's leaking from the faucet
And I'm fractured From a fall And I wanna go home Now it takes two And it used to take one It takes two And it used to take only one
Well my money's no good When I'm up to no good No good ever comes from it all I got a really good heart I just can't catch a break If I could I would treat you like you want me to I promise
But I'm fractured From the fall Oh and I wanna go home I'm fractured From the fall And I wanna go home
It takes two And it used to take one It takes two And it used to take one It takes two And it used to take one It takes two and it used to take only one
And...
"Everybody Knows"
You come for me in the worst of places You come for me, you come and try to take me home I'm always in need and it's hard to be reciprocating The fabric of our life gets torn And everything's changing so how i am to know How i'm going to hold on to you when i'm spinning out of control You an i together But only one of us in love And everybody knows He says her name, it echoes in my head like it was a canyon He says her name, he says it and i know what's up You come to me sometimes when i'm thinking like a cannonball shooting out a canyon And i forget whatever it was i was thinking about With everything changing how am i to know How i'm going to hold on to you when i'm spinning out of control With out and i together But only one of us in love And everybody knows
BH(me): 40ish FWW:(ILMH) 28yo DS 3yo Married 7yrs Together 10 yrs
??? Spring '07 - Adultery Begins 8/25/07 - 1st D-day (week of our anniv.) 8/07 thru 5/08 - About a dozen D-days/Gaslighting/Flaunting/Fake Recoveries
She finally quit on...
1/1/08 - First real NC attempt(Maybe?) 3/1/08 - Told me OM is an A**hole.(Hope?) 5/3/08 - D-day (Admitted to PA once) 5/4/08 - Latest D-day(Finally confessed to multiple EA/PA in our home) 5/8/08 - Present Struggling to hold on
I'm broke but I'm happy I'm poor but I'm kind I'm short but I'm healthy, yeah I'm high but I'm grounded I'm sane but I'm overwhelmed I'm lost but I'm hopeful baby
What it all comes down to Is that everything's gonna be fine fine fine I've got one hand in my pocket And the other one is giving a high five
I feel drunk but I'm sober I'm young and I'm underpaid I'm tired but I'm working, yeah I care but I'm worthless I'm here but I'm really gone I'm wrong and I'm sorry baby
What it all comes down to Is that everything's gonna be quite alright I've got one hand in my pocket And the other one is flicking a cigarette
What it all comes down to Is that I haven't got it all figured out just yet I've got one hand in my pocket And the other one is giving the peace sign
I'm free but I'm focused I'm green but I'm wise I'm shy but I'm friendly baby I'm sad but I'm laughing I'm brave but I'm chicken [censored] I'm sick but I'm pretty baby
And what it all boils down to Is that no one's really got it figured out just yet I've got one hand in my pocket And the other one is playing the piano
What it all comes down to my friends Is that everything's just fine fine fine I've got one hand in my pocket And the other one is hailing a taxicab...
Mostly I just have songs that helped me get over the betrayal....helped me see him for what he was.....helped me realize how I'd been jerked around and cheated and ....... Give Me One Reason by Tracy Chapman
Give me one reason to stay here and I'll turn right back around Give me one reason to stay here and I'll turn right back around Because I don't want leave you lonely But you got to make me change my mind Baby I got your number and I know that you got mine But you know that I called you I called too many times You can call me baby you can call me anytime But you got to call me
Give me one reason to stay here - and I'll turn right back around Give me one reason to stay here - and I'll turn right back around Because I don't want leave you lonely But you got to make me change my mind
I don't want no one to squeeze me - they might take away my life I don't want no one to squeeze me - they might take away my life I just want someone to hold me and rock me through the night
This youthful heart can love you and give you what you need This youthful heart can love you and give you what you need But I'm too old to go chasing you around Wasting my precious energy
Give me one reason to stay here - and I'll turn right back around Give me one reason to stay here - and I'll turn right back around Because I don't want leave you lonely But you got to make me change my mind
Baby just give me one reason - Give me just one reason why Baby just give me one reason - Give me just one reason why I should stay Because I told you that I loved you And there ain't no more to say
There's a cross on the side of the road Where a mother lost her son How could she know that the morning he left Would be the last time she'd trade with him for a little more time (so she could say she loved him one last time) And hold him tight But with life we never know when we're coming up to the end of the road So what do we do then With tragedy around the bend
We live, we love, we forgive and never give up Cuz the days we are given are gifts from above And today we remember to live and to love We live, we love, we forgive and never give up Cuz the days we are given are gifts from above And today we remember to live and to love
There's a man who waits for the tests to See if the cancer had spread yet And now he asks why did I wait to live 'til it was time to die If I could have the time back, how I'd live Life is such a gift So how does the story end? Well, this is your story and it all depends So don't let it become true Get out and do what we were meant to do
We live, we love, we forgive and never give up Cuz the days we are given are gifts from above And today we remember to live and to love We live, we love, we forgive and never give up Cuz the days we are given are gifts from above And today we remember to live and to love
Waking up to another dark morning People are mourning The weather in life outside is storming But what would it take for the clouds to break For us to realize each day Is a gift somehow, someway And get our heads up out of this darkness And spark this new mindset and start on with life cuz it ain't gone yet And tragedy's a reminder to take off the blinders and wake up (to live the life) We're supposed to take up (moving forward) With all our heads up Cuz life is worth living
We live, we love, we forgive and never give up Cuz the days we are given are gifts from above And today we remember to live and to love We live, we love, we forgive and never give up Cuz the days we are given are gifts from above And today we remember to live and to love
