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Re: My WW and her OM have a secret Rendezvous July karmasrose #2083867 07/02/08 04:32 PM
Joined: Jun 2008 Posts: 123 A azstate98 OP Member
OP azstate98 Member A Joined: Jun 2008 Posts: 123	No, I do not feel that way. I feel she's willing to talk, listen, and to discuss how to make our marriage better.

Re: My WW and her OM have a secret Rendezvous July azstate98 #2083871 07/02/08 04:36 PM
Joined: Sep 2005 Posts: 10,044 M medc Member
medc Member M Joined: Sep 2005 Posts: 10,044	Quote I feel she's willing to talk, listen, and to discuss how to make our marriage better. REALLY??? Well, perhaps you have a totally different spin on what she has been saying to you.

Re: My WW and her OM have a secret Rendezvous July medc #2083883 07/02/08 05:00 PM
Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 4,083 K KaylaAndy Member
KaylaAndy Member K Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 4,083	I agree - this is a set up for a bad scene. If you want to be "available" to her, great - make her come to you. But don't go near her roomie's house. Have the PI do that work. Keep to the high ground. Remember Anakin Skywalker and how he became a machine! Cafe Plan B link http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2182650&page=1 The ? that made recovery possible: "Which lovebuster do I do the most that hurts the worst"? The statement that signaled my personal recovery and the turning point in our marriage recovery: "I don't need to be married that badly!" If you're interested in saving your relationship, you'll work on it when it's convenient. If you're committed, you'll accept no excuses.

Re: My WW and her OM have a secret Rendezvous July princessmeggy #2083885 07/02/08 05:03 PM
Joined: Dec 2006 Posts: 810 TX R rwinger Member
rwinger Member R Joined: Dec 2006 Posts: 810 TX	Originally Posted by princessmeggy TJ/ Quote heck I am going north this weekend otherwise I head down there myself. Gonna do a little Choctaw? Our (me and DH) code for that is "I sure am hungry for a grill cheese!" /TJ nope - lake of the ozarks - never been there before BH - Be very careful. There is some concern of the OM being present - be ready. You need to clear the BH fog right away. Be prepared for the worst scenario (and have a plan)and hope for the best. You are not going there to DJ and LB all over the place. If so - stay put. Short Plan A. Would not start out the first day with any relationship talk and certainly no ultimatums right from the starting gate. You will have plenty of time for that - good restaurant = gueros btw. have rescued others from jail there - not a pleasant place. Sort of like a mental hospital, homeless shelter and prison rolled into one location. Take care Me:52 W: 52 Married: 32 yrs 2 Sons (29 & 23) 1 Dtr (20) 1 GDtr (2.5) precious little girl

Re: My WW and her OM have a secret Rendezvous July azstate98 #2083947 07/02/08 07:00 PM
Joined: Jun 2002 Posts: 2,956 C committedandlovi Member
committedandlovi Member C Joined: Jun 2002 Posts: 2,956	Originally Posted by betrayedhubby75 No, I do not feel that way. I feel she's willing to talk, listen, and to discuss how to make our marriage better. Do you even have a plan about what can be done to save the marriage? I get the feeling that you have been riding the adrenaline rush of all the infernal drama. Have you got any ideas on what needs to be discussed? What you BOTH need to do? Counselors on board? Man, this entire thread has been about the drama of it playing out. Focus Focus Focus You have your work cut out for you given the history of the relationship. committed

Re: My WW and her OM have a secret Rendezvous July medc #2084023 07/02/08 10:13 PM
Joined: Feb 1999 Posts: 7,298 L Lucks Member
Lucks Member L Joined: Feb 1999 Posts: 7,298	Originally Posted by medc I just would hate to see her claim domestic assault. If she does, you will go to jail. I think this is too risky given her continued abuse towards you (she is verbally abusive)...it could easily escalate into something. Given everything else you have done, you would be hard pressed to convince a judge she is lying. I wish you luck. I am really appalled at how she calls you names and insults you, in most sentences. Yes, she is verbally abusive. This is more than affair fog babble. I really, really, really don't think this trip is a good idea. It's like watching a train wreck. I am hoping for the best for you, but I'm not sure that best will be with your W! If not straight to Plan D, I vote a VERY dark Plan B. Plan A isn't being a doormat. Is this how you usually handle her name-calling?? Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you'll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others.

Re: My WW and her OM have a secret Rendezvous July Lucks #2084026 07/02/08 10:27 PM
Joined: Aug 2006 Posts: 3,862 M Marshmallow Member
Marshmallow Member M Joined: Aug 2006 Posts: 3,862	Originally Posted by Lucks I am really appalled at how she calls you names and insults you, in most sentences. Yes, she is verbally abusive. This is more than affair fog babble. I really, really, really don't think this trip is a good idea. It's like watching a train wreck. I am hoping for the best for you, but I'm not sure that best will be with your W! If not straight to Plan D, I vote a VERY dark Plan B. Plan A isn't being a doormat. Is this how you usually handle her name-calling?? I think BH didn't know what LB were until he found MB. He's learning how to be a better H. And if she is willing, he can help her learn how to become a better W. I applaud his effort and am confident that he will be able to handle whatever happens this weekend.

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