Hi guys,

Well we are a month from moving to a new town together. I have been struggling a lot lately, wanting to leave. I feel like WW is withdrawing from me the closer we get to our move. Now, she says she wants me to just go. She says she doesnt think we are compatible.

I think we are incredibly compatible. We have the same intellectual abilities, the same political/religious views, the same sense of humor, the same social skills (or lack thereof). I have no desire to go out and start with anyone new. I think if it wasnt for 18 months of distance and her resulting involvement in an MMORPG, this prolly wouldnt have happened. I have pleaded with her to at least give us a year together to see how things turn out. I dont think she should be making this decision 2 months from D-Day when she is in the fog. I dont want us to end because she is in the fog and wanting to contact OM. But she seems to have given up on me.

We just sat down and read a ton of posts here that all indicate why she shouldnt do this. But it doesnt matter. She still wants me to go, and doesnt seem to want to take a chance with me in the new town. Even tho she has absolutely nothing to lose.

I have been really emotional here I admit. I havent made it easy on her. I relocated to her town and have no friends/family here. Just her. I wish I couldve done plan A better. Its just been brutal being here where they did all their stuff. I am dying to move on to the new town.

I have tried to get her to post on here but she is adverse. I am so lost right now, I just know I want to have a shot at this thing because I firmly believe we have a great future ahead of us. I just cannot get her to vest in it, instead she withdraws more and more as we get closer to moving.

I am sure she will read this, if anyone thinks they can say something to her to help, I would love the assistance. Thanks.

What exactly does not compatible mean. In reallity, there is no such thing. Not compatible means I refuse to let you meet my EN's.

That's quite sad really. Your WW has shut down your LBank. She will in time regret that. But not much you can do except continue to try and make deposits.

Don't really know what else to say.

All Blessings
Jerry

My WH has said the same thing about the compatibility - and that was his main reason for telling me he wanted a divorce in May. Shinethrough has a point about not compatible being refusal to meet ENs. That makes sense in situation with WH. Perhaps you'll find it makes sense in your relationship too.

WH shut down his LBank to me the day he said he wanted a divorce. I found this site and continued to try to make deposits anyway - focused on stopping my Lbing and bettering myself. Since nothing I did seemed to matter to WH, I did stop making some deposits just to set boundaries for myself. I wasn't going to do do do for him and run myself ragged! It was taking a toll on me emotionally.

WH is still involved with OW (in fact I just found out earlier this week he was having an affair) so my situation is a bit different than yours. Listen to Shinethrough and continue to make those deposits. I'm sure she will regrest having shut you out based on reading other posts from people in similar situation and in recovery.