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I think rephrase the "I am not writing to stir up a lot of drama ", it just sounds a bit like your stirring a little, althought i am not sure of an alternative at the moment. "Unfortunately, I now find WH being sometimes untruthful to me along with other family members, so it is probably both to OW and myself. " Umm, maybe something like Unfortunately, I now find WH being sometimes untruthful to me along with other family members, so there is a likelyhood that he is also being untruthful to OW as well. "as his parents no longer wish to condone his bad decisions" maybe somthing more like as his parents no longer will support his distructive actions. "I thought perhaps she would be more sensible that he has been." I hoped would be better, 'thought' sounds like a DJ to me IMHO otherwise I think its ok. Im flattered by what you did use 
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What about: I'm not writing to hurt anyone or for revenge.
Is that better>?
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Esprit, can I suggest that you cut out everything except the facts? They won't have any interest in hearing unrelated stuff and it might just put them off. I would stick to the facts:
Dear Parents,
I am such and such, wife of such and such who spoke to you on 01-02-2007 about your daughters adulterous affair with my H.
this letter is to advise you that the affair continues. They saw each other on XYZ and continue to see each other currently. Evidence is attached.
his affair has caused me great grief and pain and I AM ASKING FOR YOUR HELP in saving my marriage by influencng your D to end her affair with my H.
Please contact me at 400-400-9000 if you have any questions. I am very sorry we are both in this situation and deeply regret having to send this sad letter to you.
Best regards,
Be as factual as possible and don't muddy up the waters with alot of unrelated, dramatic emotional items. Older people dont like that.
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Ok, that sounds good. Should I let them know that WH hasn't filed for divorce or anything? I know that was something that OW's mother talked about when we spoke on the phone. She said that if he wanted her daughter so badly, he would have filed immediately, though she could care less if he were divorced or not, she doesn't want a cheater for her daughter.
Also, can the letter be handwritten or should it be typed? My printer is messed up and I would like to get this out ASAP.
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Ok, that sounds good. Should I let them know that WH hasn't filed for divorce or anything? I know that was something that OW's mother talked about when we spoke on the phone. She said that if he wanted her daughter so badly, he would have filed immediately, though she could care less if he were divorced or not, she doesn't want a cheater for her daughter.
Also, can the letter be handwritten or should it be typed? My printer is messed up and I would like to get this out ASAP. It doesn't matter if it is typed or handwritten. I would mention that no one has filed for divorce.
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Alright. It's written, in an envelope with a stamp, and out in the mailbox to be picked up in the morning. I'm nervous. 
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You have nothing to be nervous about, but the OW DOES!! Good girl!
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