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I am posting here to get more feedback. Please refer to the above link for history.

I am very frustrated at this point and feel like I have been giving, giving, and more giving. My prayer partner told me that Satan is really working on my husband to destroy him and my family. He said that I am the one standing in the way and I need to stay in close prayer and continue to draw strength from God. When I think of it this way, I do not want to give up on my husband, I truly care about him as a person. However, at this point I feel as though I could leave the state and never see him again. Very unrealistic though as we have a 6yo daughter and she would be devastated without her daddy. What to do?

How long have you been in Plan A?

Your husband is still addicted to drugs?

Dr. Harley has said that the plans don't work until the addiction is overcome.

He is still seeing OW?

Yet another addiction.

I would go to be if I were you but I can't make that decision for you.

Perhaps someone else will weigh in here.

Charlotte

He just came off a heavy pain killer.

I am guessing it will take more time for him to get it together...

Has anyone ever followed Dr Harleys suggestion and moved out of state with the kids?

If so, how did that affect the kids and the marriage?

Plan A-it has been about two months. However, there has been arguing and I have gotten upset with him exposing my daughter to this other woman. So Plan A has not been very smooth.

I am in no way a vet, but I have a few thoughts to consider.

I havent' read your sitch and need to get out the door and do chores, but do you want your M.

Take this story for what its worth. There is a woman in my AA mtgs. who became and alcoholic after 17 years of drinking. Last summer she has surgery and became addicted to pills. It took her 17 days to become addicted to them, and when coming off, she wanted to die. She NEVER experienced that with alcohol.

This society does NOT understand what these pain pills are doing to people and people who already have addictions. This is NO JOKE and as SERIOUS as the pain that these AFFAIRS are causing us.

I believe that the Harley's say Plan A is not called for in cases when someone is actively using, and if he is coming off pills he is still drug affected and a very dangerous person.

So, I personally would lay low, get all my ducks in a row to go into Plan B. If the opportunity arises where you can Plan A, I would for a alittle while ending on a GREAT NOTE and move into Plan B, swiftly and DARK. ABSOLUTELY DARK.

IMHO

I'm currently expecting (in either 3 days or 3 weeks, whenever he decides to make an appearance) and I will be moving out of state with the children. We are already packing and getting rid of things that we don't need. The girls are undecided. The youngest doesn't want to go, but the other two want to and don't want to. I think their main concern is leaving their friends. I think that moving far away is a good idea. It really helps you and makes the WS think.

I think. LOL.

Espirit-

Are you going without your H? If so are your kids concerned about missing him? If he is going, how did you approach him with the idea?

I wish you the best with your little one on the way and I admire your courage!