About a month or so ago I found out my husband was having an emotional affair. He's admitted to it but I suspect there was also a physical affair but he denies it. My husband has shown no remorse and blames me for everything he refuses to take responsibility for his actions and because of this I have filed for divorce. I feel he gave me no choice but at the same time I keep hoping he'll wake up and realize all he's losing besides his money which he seems overly concerned about. I've asked him to be transparent to give me all his email logins and passwords, credit card bills, and phone bills. He refuses which just shows me hw has a lot to hide. In fact I've read many of his emails to the other woman and though they don't say, "Hey we had sex" it does say there's a lot that went on that makes me think they did. I just got off the phone with him and confronted him with these emails but he refuses to tlak about them on the phone because he thinks I'm bugging the phone. He wants to talk in person and I haven't given him that chance really because everyime I have he just feeds me lies and tries to manipulte me into stopping the divorce. He blames me for everything which proves to me he has no remorse for what he has done.
We have two small children with another on the way so by breaking up this family I feel we have a lot to lose but I also know that I cannot continue to live like this. The pain is unbearable and I refuse to sit back and let it consume me hence the reason I filed for divorce. He has also done some nasty things like turn off my cell phone because I would not pick up when he called leaving my children and I vulnerable if an emergency should happen. He also cleared out our savings and checking account to leave us with nothing. My lawyer has fixed that but without my lawyer the account would still be empty.

My husband is a narcissist and I don't believe he is capable of feeling or showing remorse. I really don't want to divorce him but I don't know what else to do. I can't live with a cheater who won't fess up to his wrong doings. I'd rather live alone forever then live like that.

Any advice?

Hi kdis and welcome to marriage builders. I'm sorry that you have to be here at such a time. I understand how you feel, especially being pregnant and I know from experience that your emotions are going crazy. I am by no means an expert or vet here, so I will leave them to give you advice. I will say that you might want to post in General Discussion II also, because there is a lot of traffic there.

Have you read all the articles here on the site?

Welcome to marriagebuilders.

So sorry you had to join us, but glad you found us. If he is a narcissist, you have a problem. Because those type of people don't have remorse and are very self-involved.

But stick with us and we will help you recover. It is late, and you will get more posts tomorrow.

I promise you that things will get better and you will be happy one day again.

If the pain is unbearable, see your doctor. Being pregnant, you might not be able to take anti-depressants, but talk to your doctor anyway.