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Have you exposed the A to OM wife?
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Hi mogrod, welcome to Marriage Builders. I'm sorry you find yourself here, but you are in the best place possible.
I am not the best person to start you, but have you read up on things on this website?
Weekends are really slow on here, so be patient.
I'm going to try and find the thread that MelodyLane was working with someone this past week. She gave great advice. I'll be back with where to go read.
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D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW
Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09
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But, on Monday my wife told me that those calls have now ended al of a sudden. Which I thought was weird. Why would they just stop after multiple calls? Your wife and the OM have likely lied to the OM's wife and told her the affair is over. Thats my guess why the calls have stopped. "IF" they really have, that is. Waywards LIE, and become more secretive once people start finding out. You should not trust anything your wife tells you to be true. Check it out for yourself. You should also contact the OM's wife and expose the affair yourself. That way you know she has been informed that the affair is still on. Jo
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Like I said, if I had a way to contact her I would but I've had no luck so far. in the mean time, should I tell her best friends? My wife said they know about it but I don't think it's true because I would think they would look down on her for it. Can you check her cell phone records? They should have OMW's number on it. Or hire a PI to find her. Yes, expose to her friends. And to anyone else who could put pressure on them to end the A.
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Which scares you more, losing your wife and family for good or an immoral man showing up to get HIS [censored] kicked?
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OK, I got her home phone number off the white pages site.
Should I use my own cell or home number? Last last thing I need is some crazy jack-[censored] coming at me because he knew I told on him. Dial *67 before you call the number. That way your number won't show. But, you'll have to identify yourself to OMW. If anyone ought to be afraid of anyone, it ought to be OM of YOU!
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OK, I got her home phone number off the white pages site.
Should I use my own cell or home number? Last last thing I need is some crazy jack-[censored] coming at me because he knew I told on him. I would block your number so he doesn't know its you, in case he answers.
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Damn, I called the number and it said it's been disconnected.
I've messaged a few of her best friends through their myspace accounts. Man, this is going to explode. LOL!!!
She says her Mom and sister knows, but I somehow don't believe it. Yeap, probably the OM changed their number and set it up as "unlisted" so you can't contact her. Very sneeky. Can you get her email somehow? Does she work? Can you get her work number? Jo
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Damn, I called the number and it said it's been disconnected.
I've messaged a few of her best friends through their myspace accounts. Man, this is going to explode. LOL!!!
She says her Mom and sister knows, but I somehow don't believe it. Well, since she tells you they already know, then it won't be a problem with you telling them AGAIN, right? 
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Sounds like you are on the right track. Expose to EVERYONE you and your WW knows. Even her mother/father/sister and so on...
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She's going to be angry at first and will probably say some horrible things because when you expose you ruin the 'fantasy' that they have together. Just try to let it roll off you back and trust me, I know it's easier said than done.
You've come to a good place and you will get some great advice.
You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist. ~ Friedrich Nietzsche
The person who is always finding fault seldom finds anything else.
I pity the fool. - Mr. T
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And this works?
I mean, I guess it does since everyone on here says to do it and vouches for it, but the ****edit**** going hit the fan and she's going to go berserk. I know, I know, it's just her fantasy coming to an end and so on, but this could get ugly. LOL!! Absolutely she'll be PO'd, so get ready for a [censored] storm. But she WILL get over it. And one day she may even thank you for it. We've seen it here countless times. When she spews venom at you for exposing, just respond with "I can see how you'd feel that way", and leave it at that. No lovebusters. Affairs thrive in secrecy. Exposing it is a very effective tool in your arsenal of weapons to fight it. Jo
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