I thought I'd write some hopeful news for a change. It's been tough because of the crazy stress I've had lately, but there was one very positive development tonight. I won't read too much into it, but it gave me some room for hope.

Sally came over to have dinner at my house and stayed late to watch a movie.

I scrambled when I got home and cooked a nice meal for us. She got there and I set the table, had some wine on the side, and dinner was ready.

She was a bit surprised. I have to say that she looked good too. I'm use to seeing her in her after work "just relaxing" clothes, but could tell she put some effort into how she looked to come over. She was dressed casual, but could tell she put some effort to look nicer than normal.

We had a really nice dinner. We then watched her favorite show and watched a movie together. I don't have my living room setup to have us sit together to wach the movie, but I sat next to her the whole time in my own chair. We shared popcorn and she really liked the movie I picked, which she said she never would have done it herself.

I would have liked a goodnight hug, but that's ok. She texted me when she got home and thanked me for the company and the movie.

I got the vibe that if I went out with her again it would be ok to at least offer her my arm.

I have NEVER gone this slow with anyone in my life, but I have a very good feeling that good things come to those who wait.

Going to bed in a good mood amidst the mud slinging chaos the ex is forcing on me right now.

That's ok. I'm a happy man tonight.

Go figure. I'm happy despite sleeping alone.

All good with me.

Sounds nice! I think you and Sally are doing great!

Awwwww.....that's so SWEET, pom!! I like your love story! Keep us posted!!

"Happy Traaaaaaaaails to you....."

Charlotte

"Slowly, slowly, catchee monkey"

I'm happy for you.

The good thing that I forgot to mention is that we talked about all kinds of stuff with a little mention of divorce stuff, but little is the key word. I avoided the subject as much as possible.

I want a real date with her where we go out and take a walk during the night. THAT will be when I can offer her my arm.

I'm letting her dictate the pace, but I'm gently pushing along, and trying to provide opportunities to get together.

So we'll see where things go.

Was her fav. show Nashville Star.....if so the outcome was???????? Sorry to TJ. The evening sounds promising... GF

I'm so happy for you and I love watching a romance blossom especially when one of the parties is armed with MB wisdom!

Great news!!!!

Well, in one week we'll have an idea on what happens with the kids and I.

I'm cautiously optimistic and hoping there is justice. I'm not a perfect man or a perfect father, but I really hope I don't need to be.

There's lots that will be happnening next week, and there's lots of good things happening next week on a family level. We'll just have to see what happens and put things in God's hands. My family is behind me 100%.

I had a very vivid dream about Sally last night. It was one of those "oh, it's just a dream" type of dreams when I woke up.

I dreamt that she and I went out to see the new X Men film. No, there is no new X Men film, but there was in my dream.

We showed up to the theater and the line snaked around the block and was full of people in costumes. Uber nerds (i'm one deep inside) were dressed as Star Wars and X Men characters.

She and I got in line and were waiting. While waiting, she got a call from her mom (who has passed). Sally got all excited to tell her mom that she met some guy named Gary and that things were looking good with him.

In other words, it wasn't me. She was out with me, but it was just as friends in her mind.

So I quietly stood next to her with a smile on my face, but hurting inside.

In the dream she gave me really mixed signals, like leaning on me or grabbing my arm, but she was excited about another guy.

Granted, it was just a dream.

Things in reality are ok. She's still hard to read. We text and write and talk about getting together, but she withdraws a bit.

That's ok, though. I'm patient and in no rush. I'll feel better about approaching things once my custody stuff ends. I think she may be waiting to see what happens as well.

It's a crazy situation and I'm sure she's just waiting for calm.

Stress!

Home stretch time. Things will take a big step towards ending on Friday of this week.

My ex has her deposition Wednesday.

Lots of stuff happening. More I'd like to share, but I can't till this ends.

To WHNACG:

NUTS!

My thanks to the bloody bastar*s of Bastogne.

Wow. Great email if I do say so.

I do not see why bringing things up that you did or went through during the divorce or earlier should make a difference in a custody situation. Those things should not be able to be mentioned as they have nothing to do with a custody case. What does your attorney say about that. Why are they allowing those types of things??

How do they plan on proving it is your posts that they are using?

I would think if they are able to use it as evidence, you will have a chance to look at it. Either your lawyer or her lawyer will ask you questions about it, such as "is this you?"

I can't see how it would even be admissable at all.

I've followed your story for a while and have not seen anywhere you have said you were going to cry on the stand for sympathy.

She won't like it, but I think you made your point with the email back to her.

Hang in there, pom. Keep taking good care of your kids and doing the best you can do as a man and as a father.


Fox

Tomorrow is the big day.

There's been much stress. I have very rarely felt this much stress in my life and I have flown in combat. My blood pressure is through the roof, but I guess that's understandable.

What's been amazing to me has been the amount of support I have received from friends and family. They are really coming out of the woodwork.

I would post more but exww's attorney reads my posts here. So feel free to tell him what you think. I've been dealing with all kinds of different attorneys for the past 2 years and he's in a whole different place than they are.

I'd say more, but don't want to give him the satisfaction.

I'll leave that up to all of you.

Now, that being said, I do ask for you to pray for my children. They are the ones who will be affected by the outcome tomorrow and it really boils down to this:

They will go with a parent who is clearly attempting to keep them out of the other parent's life or they will go to a parent who wishes to have both families and both parents incorporated into the children's lives.

I've made several offers which keep both parents involved. The question now is whether or not there will be any justice tomorrow.

I will say this: the level of support I've received both here on MB and by my coworkers, friends, and family has been incredible.

I'm honestly shocked by some developments recently, both good and bad.

I will provide a detailed explanation of specifics once this is over, but it's isn't safe to do so right now.

So please say your prayers for a BH who wishes more than anything to stay an involved father and is up against a sytem that makes that very difficult for men.

Thank you to MB.

My prayers are with you and your children, pom.

I also pray that those who seek evil, will one day stop to consider why they choose to spend their life and their energy spreading evil in the world.

Pom,

I havent read your story but been told your story. I wish you the best of luck tomorrow!!!

Good luck tomorrow!!!! Nobody deserves it more than you and your kids.

Thanks again for the wishes.

I appreciate them.

The support I've gotten that last few days has been overwhelming.

Pom, you and your family have been in my prayers and will continue to be. Hang in there!