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It's a blessing since she was in the last stages of Alzheimers.
She was an admirable woman in many ways. I'll be writing sympathy notes galore. I know my ex wouldn't care to have me at the funeral.
Divorced.
2 Girls
Remarried 10/11/08
Widowed 11/5/08
Remarrying 12/17/15
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Please know I'm thinking of you during these difficult days.
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I am sorry to hear of the lose of your MIL. You are in my prayers.
Brokenhusband
Married 12 years
Me 35
DW 33
DD 12
DD 10
DS 8
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GG, my MIL died on Thanksgiving Day this past year and nobody informed me until after the funeral weeks later.
It was my XBIL that told me after his wife (XW sister) allowed him to.
MIL really liked me and was always kind no matter how bad W was to me.
Luckily she was just sitting in her chair and nodded off to sleep and didn't wake up. No pain, no misery.
I watch, and am as a sparrow alone upon the house top.
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Thanks for everyone's thoughts.
Pariah, I'm really grateful that my daughter told me. I'm also glad that B's family still talks to me. They're good people.
We knew it was coming. She's had Alzhiemers for many years, and in the recent months hasn't known anyone. I think that changes the blow of death. You start missing the person even though their body is still fine.
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Remarried 10/11/08
Widowed 11/5/08
Remarrying 12/17/15
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Sorry for you loss GG.
It's still hard to loose someone physically even if they've "checked out" mentally years ago.
My Great Grandmother had passed away in 1999 @ 101. She had stopped recognizing any family members around 1984.
It was hard to watch the effect of that on my Grandfather (who passed 3 mo later).
My condolences.
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Sorry to hear the news.
When my XFIL died last year, I went out of respect for MIL, and went for my children. They'd never been to a funeral before and I was worried about them.
It was a marriage that never really started.
H: Conflict Avoider, NPD No communication skills (Confirmed by MC) Me: Enabler
Sep'd 12/01, D'd 08/03.
My joys and the light of my life: DD 11, DD 9
*Approach life and situations from the point of love - not from fear.*
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I remember, and was thinking about you.'
In general, I think the family will feel more at ease without me. It will just be the family, and because of age, problably not many others.
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Walking, I hear you. I worried about my FIL. He's in his 90s, and while his wife has been gone mentally for a while, I know this will be a blow. I also think he's been holding on because he wants to be there for her. I may not have done a good job picking my first husband, but boy, I picked excellent in laws.
My soon-to-be-in-laws are also awesome.
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Remarried 10/11/08
Widowed 11/5/08
Remarrying 12/17/15
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