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Just a general call out to find out whose in plan B, who has been in a plan B, and did it lead to recovery?
Cheers,
Lil
Recovered marriage, recovering self, life gets better everyday 
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I'm surprised no one has responded to this yet, but you might get a better reply posting in the General Questions II or Recovery forums.
I was in Plan B. It did not lead to recovery, but I was only in it for a few months before I lost all the love I had for my WW and began D proceedings.
Plan B did have a major effect on my WW, though, and she changed from being completely remorseless to very remorseful. I suspect that given more time a recovery effort might've been happened.
But I have no regrets. Even if you don't recover your marriage with Plan B, you will recover yourself.
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Me-39 H-38/Married 19years/DD18 & DS10
Dday EA/PA 4/23/08 Left home 5/08/08
Moved in w/Sea Hag 08/01/08
Read SAA Sept 08 Plan A 10/03/08 thru 11/15/08
Plan B 11/15/08-currently
01/18/09 Plan B crack w/phone call restating PBL
01/31/09 Planned brief contact
02/15/09 Delivery of Planned 2nd PBL
Filed for D Dec 2009 Recovering well!
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I'm in Plan B but suspect you want more experienced Plan B'ers - I've only been in for 2 weeks.
Me - BW/BS Age: 56 Married 7 1/2 years Divorced Jan 2010
EA began '07 PA began Jan '08
Found out July 2008 Found MB September
Plan A 09/03/2008
I filed D 10/31/2008
Dark Plan B began 11/09/2008
Emerged from Plan B 11/15/2009
Court date (final) scheduled for 12/16/2009
Divorce Final January 2010
Plan B recommenced upon Divorce
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LOL, well that was scary. I can answer myself now, 5 months down the track. I was in PB for 16 days and yes it did lead to recovery. Hope you all are looking after yourselves and remembering to do stuff for you. Its not about the WS anymore. Good luck and  ETA: I remembered I did end up starting this thread in GQ2 and it got more responses. I thought it might help some to have the link. GQ2 Plan B thread
Last edited by lildoggie; 11/23/08 05:21 PM. Reason: ETA
Recovered marriage, recovering self, life gets better everyday
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I am not real savvy on the computer. Having a hard time figuring this out. What is Plan A and B? Where can I find out? And where is a list of the abbreviations? Obviously I am here due to the infidelity of my husband.
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Link to Plan A and B. http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.htmlWhile there you should probably read everthing on the How to survive infidelity pages. Also, read up on emotional needs, and love busters. read the part about how affairs happen. Read the book Surviving an Affair and His needs, her needs by dr. harley.
Me: 32 BS DDay: 9/14/08
Slowly coming to the realization that I
am one of those who can't get past it.
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