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Tonight I met with some friends who know my situation - father is in a lot of pain and not finding a will to live much longer, and I've been scattered and unfocused at work.
I promised my friends to dial things back and just focus on what I need to get done in order to keep my job, make the income I need, and be there for my mom in her time of need.
There are many here who are in my prayers for all their diverse situations. Know that you will be in my thoughts, even if I'm not reading here for a while.
Marriage Builders is a lot like Hotel California - you can check out any time you like, but unless you're Orchid, who has been MIA since the major upgrade, you can never leave... I'm sure I'll be back.
Cafe Plan B link http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2182650&page=1 The ? that made recovery possible: "Which lovebuster do I do the most that hurts the worst"? The statement that signaled my personal recovery and the turning point in our marriage recovery: "I don't need to be married that badly!" If you're interested in saving your relationship, you'll work on it when it's convenient. If you're committed, you'll accept no excuses.
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Take care, Kayla and God Bless! 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Kayla, Prayers going up to ya girlfriend.....sending you my support when you need, like you did for me.....  not2fun
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Kayla,
Please remember in all of this turmoil and fear of loss to get back out into nature.
That is where you will find God and your center.
I know you know this, but don't forget during this time of terrible distress, as it is easy to do.
Go hiking, and canoeing if you can.
Be at one with nature, as I know you strive.
I'm going canoing this weekend, after years of not having anyone to go with me. I'll think of you and yours.
Take care my friend.
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Kayla,
I'll be thinking of you, your family and keeping you all in my prayers.
As Weaver says, lean on God and take care of you, too!
BS (me)
ExWS -Drac
DD 9
DSS 15
D Day 11/06
Divorced 10/01/07
"You Can't Fix Stupid" - My Mom
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Take care KA. Focus on the important things for now.
I wish you peace and happiness.
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KA -
My prayers will be with you......
Blessings,
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
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SMB and I are praying for you. Take care.
Recovery began 10/07;
Meeting my wife's EN's is my "thank you" that refuses to be silenced.
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((((Kayla))))
I'm very sorry to hear about your father. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Take good care of yourself.
SL
Me-BS-38
Married 1997; son, 8yo
Divorced April 2009
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Thank you all - I feel the comfort of your love and prayers around me tonight.
For all of you who have men you care about - fathers, husbands, brothers... (or if you are a man and care about yourself)
Please encourage them to get a bone density test. Their doctors aren't going to say something, but read up on the symptoms or pre-conditions for osteoporosis. Soft or brittle bones is not a female condition only. Watching my dad suffer lets me know I can't take my bones for granted. But neither can my husband or my son, or my brothers...
Dietary calcium is not the only issue here - Dad's a farmer with cows and chickens, and a healthy garden of tomatoes, corn and greens. Plenty of bone building nutrients there...
Dad has lost over two inches of height, and bones so soft, they can't fix what he has. It's agonizing to watch... I can only imagine what he's going through.
Thank you for your prayers. They are so appreciated right now.
Cafe Plan B link http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2182650&page=1 The ? that made recovery possible: "Which lovebuster do I do the most that hurts the worst"? The statement that signaled my personal recovery and the turning point in our marriage recovery: "I don't need to be married that badly!" If you're interested in saving your relationship, you'll work on it when it's convenient. If you're committed, you'll accept no excuses.
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Thank you, Kayla, for all you have brought here. I have appreciated your wisdom and advice greatly.
Please add my name to the people thinking of you and praying for you and your family.
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Thank you, Kayla, for all you have brought here. I have appreciated your wisdom and advice greatly. Same here, Kayla. Good luck, and "see" you 'round.
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I'll be thinking of you and your family, KaylaAndy. You will all be in my prayers. (((((KA)))))
I wish you peace and clarity.
Lori
VERY HAPPY! FBS/FWS; 47yo; M-29 yrs.; DS-26,DD-21; our affairs: 1990-'96
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KA,
We will be praying for you and your family.
With love...
BS(me) - 40
FWH - 36
6 years of discovery.
Now - one day at a time....
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Music an Lyrics by the Byrds -
To everything - turn, turn, turn
There is a season - turn, turn, turn
And a time for every purpose under heaven
A time to be born, a time to die
A time to plant, a time to reap
A time to kill, a time to heal
A time to laugh, a time to weep
To everything - turn, turn, turn
There is a season - turn, turn, turn
And a time for every purpose under heaven
A time to build up, a time to break down
A time to dance, a time to mourn
A time to cast away stones
A time to gather stones together
To everything - turn, turn, turn
There is a season - turn, turn, turn
And a time for every purpose under heaven
A time of war, a time of peace
A time of love, a time of hate
A time you may embrace
A time to refrain from embracing
To everything - turn, turn, turn
There is a season - turn, turn, turn
And a time for every purpose under heaven
A time to gain, a time to lose
A time to rend, a time to sew
A time to love, a time to hate
A time of peace, I swear it's not too late!
Many people have expressed these thoughts over the years. I don't always do it well, but these words seem to fit, and I would guess you know the music that goes with the words.
Sometimes you have to re-align your priorities. Sometimes life does it for you.
About you, and your H, and the differences between you -
Vive la difference !!
The French doesn't translate exactly, but roughly it is "Celebrate the difference."
Let him think about that one for a while. Probably wouldn't hurt for you to think about it either.
No, I am not mistaking you for someone else.
Yes, I am sure about giving you these quotes now. <grin>
I hope thinking on this will make the next few months easier for both of you. Tough times really are tough.
Tell DS hi for us. He is the greatest.
We'll do a trip log later, if and when I get time. Ended up going home through Colorado. Had a great time.
Keep in touch. Many of us (on MB) care.
SS
I think sometimes about all the pain in the world. I hope we can ease that here, even if only a little bit.
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Thank you, Still! We are VERY different and we have a lot of fun. DS just turned 16, so life just turned up a notch!
I'm headed to see my dad in a few hours. He's not in as much physical pain, but being limited physically is wearing on him emotionally. I'm thinking that if I can just get him out of the house - even to walk down their lovely country lane so he can see the corn growing will be helpful to him.
I'm thinking of picking up Randy Pauch's book. I have been inspired by him and a former co-worker who's bodies gave them the gift of knowing their time here is limited. I wish my dad could see that he still has the gift of time, because he's still here.
Please share your ideas and wisdom. And as always, your prayers and thoughts are appreciated!
Cafe Plan B link http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2182650&page=1 The ? that made recovery possible: "Which lovebuster do I do the most that hurts the worst"? The statement that signaled my personal recovery and the turning point in our marriage recovery: "I don't need to be married that badly!" If you're interested in saving your relationship, you'll work on it when it's convenient. If you're committed, you'll accept no excuses.
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