Wow, its the Father of Year! He abandoned his wife and children to have an adulterous affair with a married woman. He destroyed 2 families in pursuit of his "happiness." What a great guy!

I meant to say...Drop this ****EDIT**** ASAP!

How is someone to call *edit* with all these edits?

Mo, you don't deserve this behavior from your 'wife'. Throw her out and let her figure out what she wants. Then, don't give it to her.

The only thing I want to know is, if this place is a cult, and we're all worthless geeks, and MB is a crock, why are the Mrs and her lover spending so much time on here trying to defend themselves? Sounds like something from MB is getting under their skin.

mogrod, have you found more people to expose to yet? I know there's got to be a few more people who can find out and get disgusted by what they're doing.

"It also sounds familiar to the message I got from her best friend this morning which told me that maybe I should just worry about how to make this go smoother for our son, that he will be fine in a split family as long as me and my wife are civil, and that she thinks that there is not much I can do. She also asked if shouldn't I be angry at my wife and not want to see her."

OK, I don't post here very consistently, have been here for years but take LONG breaks away... And I am not usually paranoid about new posters (because I see lots of new posters whenever I come back from one of my lenghty absences - and they probably assume *I* am new LOL)... but I can ASSURE you that anyone who tries to tell you that your son will be fine if your WW and her adultery partner succeed in destroying his family is lying! And beware new posters here who give advice contrary to MB principles, the same advice your WW's adultery-enabling friend is giving...

"I should just worry about how to make this go smoother for our son"

That's fog-babble for 'cooperate with the adulterers', 'shut up and put up', let the adulterers control all decisions...

"that he will be fine in a split family as long as me and my wife are civil" they're grooming you to be a quiet, submissive adultery victim...

"she thinks that there is not much I can do"

they hope the BS believes that bs so they can get away with destroying your marriage and family, with your cooperaton

"She also asked if shouldn't I be angry at my wife and not want to see her"

hmmm the opposite of Plan A, eh?

Lots of people tried to convince me that my daughters would be just fine with my WXH destroying their family too...

One of my daughters had to be hospitalized for depression, she's improved but years later still just a shadow of her former self.
Another daughter started cutting herself. She doesn't do that anymore but still has anger and self-esteem issues. The adulterers and adultery-enablers didn't really give a cr@p about my daughters; their ONLY concern was that my daughters having such a bad reaction to it sort of spoiled some of their adultery fun. Don't let ANYONE tell you it doesn't hurt the kids! And yes, I did my best to be 'civil', that didn't exactly ensure a good outcome for my daughters and in fact emboldened my WH to become physically abusive with me... so much for 'civility'!

Adulterers frequently infiltrate this site to try to frustrate anti-adultery efforts. Don't trust anyone posting anti-MB advice.

"HIS" marriage values? As a SERIAL cheater, what are yours?

To cheat on your wife until she becomes an empty shell of a person? Yes, serial cheater, thats you. You have cheated on your wife with MogRods wife twice. And I can imagine there's much more. Right? <wink> <wink> We won't tell Mogrod's wife, we'll let her find THAT one out all on her own. In good time.

How very horrible for your wife to go thru this twice in her lifetime after she allowed you back in her life the first time. Actually I should say slithered back in.

12 years of h3ll on earth for that poor woman. Do you have any idea the deep unbelievable hurt she has endured? Of course you don't, you only know what YOU feel.

Mogrod:

Invite the BW of the man who is committing adultery with your wife here to MB's. Or print out what he has been posting here and give it to her.

Who have you exposed the adultery to so far?
Expose to everyone you can think of ASAP.

And do whatever you can ASAP to make sure your adulterous WW doesn't introduce her adultery partner to your son!!!!!


To Mogrod's WW:

Why in the world would you even be interested in a serial adulterer?!?!? Surely you are not so naive that you assume he won't cheat on YOU? LOL

And you'd have to be insane to let him near your son. Do you really want to jeapardize your custody of your own son? If you are so 'in love' with this adulterous disaster that you'd be willing to destroy your son's family then you're probably also too 'in love' (addicted and temporarily insane) to be trusted to protect your son from him.

BTW, you are not 'better than' his betrayed wife. And if it gives you a thrill pretending that you are, then you should get some counseling for feeling good by destroying families.


To the OM:

I challenge you to invite your betrayed wife here.
She deserves to know the truth and to get support here.
YOU don't belong here; this is NOT a site for helping adulterers destroy marriages/families.

Too late MM. MogRod found pictures of his wife, his son and the OM at an outing together.

Its just sad how adulterors always try to normalize their illicit affair by forcing their adultery partner on the unsuspecting kids. Poor innocent children.

Wow went to work this morning with about nothing on here..And well wheres the popcorn???

Mogrod,

Please be strong in all this. Being a FWW, and been there, she is acting out and then had to bring her OM into the situation. Thats classic.

I hope you took everyone who posted on here to heart. You can see your WW is doing nothing to us and we are still wanting to support you in this trying time. I know this is by far not from over and yes it stresses you out and yes its going to give you MANY of headaches. But this will past.

I do not believe she has EXPOSED herself to anyone. Her 'fit' on here proves different. And wants you to believe she has.

Mogrods WW, I bet this OM will do the same thing he did to his BW. Cheat on you and treat you the same way. If thats the road you want then be it. But your BH has been nothing but honest and answered everything that we have asked him.

Mogrods WW-OM YOU say you have morals. right. What to ruin a marriage that could be workable. *rolling eyes* You are really teaching your children the right way huh?

YOU know I used to look at my DH and see what he was doing on the computer and I would see him on MB. I would laugh and be like your on that cult site again. BUT that was JOKINGLY only cause the principles here on MB have worked and are working. And he was on here often to improve him/us/ and the family.

Mogrods WW- You wanna know something. DH had a porn addiction. I suffered with it for 11 1/2 yrs. If you read my past posts you will see what my story is about. BUT I never cheated because of that. GROW UP and either work on your M with a pro marriage counselor or just leave the poor man alone and let us help *if hes wanting to* him thru this. If he cant have YOU for support atleast he has somewhere to go and just vent and let it out and know hes not alone.

Interesting enough, DreamThing deleted the content of every single one of his/her post late this afternoon. But s/he insists s/he doesn't know anyone personally in MogRod's situation.

And, oh BTW, I see you're on right now DreamThing. Waves!!!

Mogrod1, one thing comes immediately to mind: if your WW had truely exposed her A to all concerned, she wouldn't be upset that you are doing the same. That's obviously not the case.

Here's the thing: if she actually DID any true "exposure" (Something I doubt - I do hope that there are not many people who would actually tell others about their adulterous behaviour as if it was something that should be accepted, much less supported), it was likely done via a heavily biased and slanted story in an effort to support the little fantasy A-bubble that she's built for herself. "Oh, my BH is such a horrible person and OM was nice enough to be there in my time of need, when I had no-one else to turn to, and things just went a bit further than we planned...".

Of course, once you give those people YOUR version of the story, the WS's A-bubble is being threatened and the vicous side of the active WS gets exposed, as has happened in this thread.

Continue your plan.

Okay this is getting stupid!

Modrods_other, it's bad enough that you've come to a place that your husband thought he could come to to get advice and have a support network for all the pain he's going through (because he sure doesn't have a wife to lean on)and you come here and berate, and belittle him. And if that isn't bad enough, you invite the man you're sleeping with to what? Have a good laugh at his expense? And YES, YOU ARE SLEEPING WITH HIM!!! You refer to him indirectly as your non-legal husband. Therefore, your affording him all the benefits you would give to a husband so don't lie.
Modrod_other2, who the HE** do you think you are to come here and throw your 2 cents into the ring about the man who's WIFE YOUR SLEEPING WITH. You got one big set on you pal! All you've been doing is hurting two families, you're hurting your own children and you're too selfish to realize it. I don't know any MAN! That would do that.
Modrod, I wouldn't even post anymore, you've established a good network of friends here. I would encourage you to seek out the more experienced vets here and IM them or PM them for help in your situation. I'm sure you will have more than enough volunteers that will be more than willing to give you advice. I apologize about the vent. However, I've been through alot in my life and I was NEVER treated with this amount of disreguard for my feeling and don't wish this for you. I will say to get the RO against Modrod_other2. You did a background check on him and regardless if it is sexual in nature or not, you've probably found something that IS unsavory and shouldn't have a problem having the judge rule in your favor. Even if divorce is in your future the RO could hold for a peroid of time even after the divorce.

So I deleted a couple post.

Why does that make me know MoGrod1 or his W or what not?

It makes no sense.

I deleted them because I did not feel as if they were beneficial to the "healing" and working it out process.

I would not want to be associated with someone who has so much disrespect for someone that she married and vowed to love and honor forever.

I REALLY appreciate all the support and advice from you guys.

But, I'm not running from this site because of them. I have nothing to hide and, if they want to read and continue to post their thoughts, that's their choice. I do know she absolutely HATES this site and everyone on it right now. Understandable though considering the bashing she took.

I truly still love my wife, though she tries to find any and all other motives as to why I want to save us other than that. But, she is not the woman I love right now as some crazed demon has possessed her. She really has been a GREAT woman and wife to me all these years. I couldn't have asked for anyone better. I know that woman is still inside, trying to fight her way out. I just keep praying that God can help her see the light through all the darkness surrounding her right now.

I have A LOT to think over about what plan of action I will take next. Yesterday was a REAL eye-opener.

Maybe I really need to start taking actions to protect me, but more importantly, our son.

Thanks again, from the bottom of my heart, for everything you guys have done for me. I felt completely lost before I came on here. Thanks to y'all, I now have a real direction and strength that I really needed.

I am glad your WW and the OM have not pushed you away and that you are going to continue with the help on here.

mogrod1,

Just remember that there is a difference between your WIFE and the WAYWARD one. I think you see that and hopefully (as I said before) she will one day be grateful that you LOVED her enough to see that difference and to fight for your M.

So sorry that you are going through this.

Good luck!

Bashing? I thought we were pretty restrained.

Saving... just in case.

We were.

All we did was hold a mirror up for her to see who she has become.