pretty interesting thread. have been reading, hoping to reply but didn't have time to get my arthritic old fingers going.

intro......i really wanted to respond to those swiss cheese looking excuses you gave for you A. but there are just so many holes that i would be typing for three days the way i use the key board.

i too considered having the RA many times and many different ways. i even considered trying to knock it out with om's w. wouldn't that have been a crusher for both om and ww.

i went to a 25 yr reunion without my (at the time ww) figuring this would be my get back. met some old friends, danced, drank, had lots of laughs and drank some more. had the target and started working the silver tongue magic. then it happened. for some reason or another i held her hand and that was the end of it.

you see after holding my w's hand for over 20 odd years this other womans hand just didn't fit. it felt funny and uncomfortable. then i realized that i was meant to be with my w and mt w only from the day i said my vows to the day i died.