"But in Withdrawal, there is no discussion, no bargaining, not even arguing."
"In that state, a spouse is unwilling to do anything for his or her spouse or let the spouse do anything in return.It tries to convince you that your spouse is not worth the effort, and you should engage in emotional divorce."
This about sums up where I am at. Actually I am sure he could say the same. I have gotten to the point where fighting or talking isn't worth it anymore, no resolution afterwards. We seem to just have to agree to disagree and live in limbo.
Before you tell me to fill out the EN questionnaire, I could write a book about how I feel and if its like any letters or notes I have written in the past, they will be skimmed over and thrown in a drawer. I think he would resist answering and feel it would be all together futile.
How do we get passed this?
I am so detached.
We were watching Everbody loves Raymond last night and I just wanted to cry. The episode was about them going away for the weekend and what a disaster. He didn't feel the need to go away, "for what?" and she was scared of being boring to him.
It touched a nerve, I have asked for the past 1.5 years for us to go away for a weekend alone and maybe that is why he is so resistant to it. There is an excuse all the time. Work, the kids (12 and 17.5). This should be our time.
I also fear we will be look the couple out you see that don't have one word to say to each other. Its so sad and frightening.
I know I am talking in circles and not giving much info. I have posted before and I have read, read, read but really have no clue how to apply it all.
