Just to summarize for those who haven't read my previous post, and my situation ... I met the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with, we had a wonderful time dating, being engaged, and now married 7 months. She is having alot of stress with work and it's pending layoffs, from a job which she loves. This is her first long-term relationship. She has expressed her feelings of missing the single-life where she wasn't dependant on another, could come and go as she pleases (hang out with friends and such), and the ability to make decisions on her own. I have absolutely no problem with her hanging with friends, but she's concerned that prior to marriage she hung out with me most of the time without too much of a thought about her friends, and now it's the opposite (by the way, alot of her friends are coworkers who also may be leaving due to the pending layoffs). She has expressed concern that she wasn't ready to be married (which never once was even hinted at before, she was gloriously happy for the 3 years prior, which coincidentally didn't involve any of the extreme stress from her work situation). I am a wreck over this and am not sure if I am overreacting as I've been told everyone needs time to adjust, or am I playing the fool and she just doesn't want to hurt me by saying she wants out now.

On the flip side, about 1 week or so after this disturbing discussion, we were excitedly talking about a vacation, and will most likely be making the arrangements this weekend (San Fran and wine country).

I know how I feel, which is more stressed out than ever before in my life (chest pain, difficulty breathing, can't concentrate at work, loss of sleep) as this woman means everything to me. And she says she loves me and I believe it, so that is not the issue. However, I don't know what to think, or better said, I don't know what to do. Should I bring up the seemingly good advice I have received at these forums and read about and risk stressing her out, or go with the flow for a bit, especially given her plans for vacation and such ?