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Hi all MBers...Its been a while since I posted here. I will update you all if at all interested.
My WW just came downunder with our DD that she has custody of, to see myself and our son that I have soul custody of. The story is we separated the children, and I can hear you all thinking what cruel people we are and I guess to a certain degree you are all right but this is how it is.
My DD day was sometime back in August 07 I discovered the EA and confronted my WW with it and calmly asked her if she could stop it but she refused to. The EA grew like a cancer and was a very hard time for me and eventually turned into a physical A.We separated in Dec and I came home to my country with our son
I have told WW that I am willing to put all this SH*T behind us and to try and work on our marriage, but her reply to me is she is just not feeling it, that is a chance for a reconciliation
I have left out a important part of it all she is still involved with this OM, while she was here staying with myself and our son she would be calling or getting the OM to call her while I was at work,it seems really quite strange to me that while I was at work for a period of 9 hours I just happened to call when the phone was in use,I wonder if someone upstairs was sending me a message.
I was very needy of her for the first six months of our separation always calling texting.I said to her while she was here that I would not call her anymore but I guess she just thought to herself that she had heard it all before.I have been quite strong for the last month and have not made nearly as much contact as I was previously.I have sent her a couple of texts saying that we were both thinking of her and my DD,then I receive a text back saying it pains me that we have not spoken that much since she left.
I just feel in myself that I cannot and will not be part of this triangle any longer. I really want my family back together,but I cant seem to make her see the bigger picture in regard to the kids not being together and growing together.I really feel she is not the same person I have known for 12 years.Our son is having trouble in school and we went to a parents teahers meeting and the teacher said to me a couple of days ago that she got the impression she was not that interested in what she had to say or even to concerned about our son, is she all there?
My question is this do I keep doing what I am doing in regard to not making myself available to her whenever she feels the need to talk to me or do I go down another path.
Any help would be greatly appreciated.
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you are still as cruel as ever for using your son to ease your pain. Separating your children was one of the most cruel things I have ever seen.
The ONLY path to take is to do what is necessary to get your children back together. Everything else is secondary.
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Why was the second reply deleted?
Its not about the kids its about getting the marriage back together.
I really wish you could get past that MEDC.
I want my family together I wish you would just believe me when I say that.
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Its not about the kids its about getting the marriage back together.
I really wish you could get past that MEDC.
I want my family together I wish you would just believe me when I say that. Are you kidding me? Why did you split up your family?
Last edited by lildoggie; 08/01/08 09:11 PM. Reason: agreed
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Ok maybe a bad comment, but what I meant to say was how do I get the WW back so I can have my kids back together
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Finally a supporter, I want my kids together and my marriage back!!
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PLEASE TELL ME YOU ARE NOT CONSIDERING GOING ALONG WITH THIS PLAN TO SEPARATE THE CHILDREN. medc I am because I cannot live in this country I cannot speak the language and if I was to get a place of my own I would not be able to do the basic things in life.I also need to have my support network around me.
I just feel that if we do go through with this plan then I want her to suffer as much as I am. Pottsy ENOUGH SAID???
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Why do reviewers posts keep getting deleted?
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you are incredible MEDC keep pulling these old posts **********.
Last edited by Asterisk; 08/01/08 09:11 PM. Reason: Profane
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just making sure there is an accurate accounting of what you are doing.
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Ok then whats the best way of getting the marriage back together?.
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get on a plane tomorrow and go back to her country. get the children together and follow the plans. IF they do not work...which is a real possibility, NEVER divide your children again.
The MARRIAGE is secondary here to the children. Period.
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What do you mean when you say its a real possibility it cant be saved?
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YOU screwed up royally by dividing your family. You have put your family in a very precarious position.
If you want advice...go read the threads you started before. You were given great advice...you ignored it.
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I read here that there are alot of success stories?
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there are. YOU have screwed up thing so badly that you have reduced the odds of success dramatically. They are zero until you get your butt back there with your son.
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