I just wanted to say a quick hello to everyone.

I have not been here for several weeks now, by choice, so I could cool down and do some serious thinking.

The time away has been good... so good in fact that I plan to not be on this board most likely, any longer.

This place was tremendously helpful for me when I first came here over 3 years ago. But I am now at a place where it is no longer needed for me.

I have learned a lot in the last few weeks of being away from here. First off, I have learned that when I have been burned or betrayed I hold that grudge for a VERY long time. After 3 years I am only now starting to get to a place where I feel I can forgive my exh and not have that deep seeded hatred I had. OW? I fear I may hold a grudge against her and any of my exes ow for a long time to come. And exbf, yes, I am angry and resentful there as well and am still not completely ready to let go of it. However, being that he was once a member here, this was not the place to vent it. However true it all was, I should have just left the venting sessions to be between me and my bff. This was not the forum to do it in.

Since the use of this board simply became a venting place for me that is another reason why I will be continuing to stay away. Venting is great but not very productive and it keeps the thoughts alive in me. Since I have been away I have not thought about any of the things that were bothering me, I have gotten a lot more done, spent more time with my kids, and just all around been a much happier person. I have been focusing my energies in positive areas rather than having it focussed on negative ones.

I do want to thank the moderators again for being so wonderful and understanding.

For those who care to know, here is a quick recap on me and my kids:
The move went well and we love our new home and neighborhood. It has been a huge weight lifted off of me to be out of the old town that held so many bad memories and where I would run into different ow my ex had been with, at every turn. It is a fresh start and we have all adjusted well. The kids are making friends and our neighbors are great.

Work is very busy but going well. I just got my evaluation and got an excellent one. It is great to be appreciated and told you are doing a wonderful job.

College is going, well, it is going. I start a new term in September and at this point will just be happy when I am done.

We will start our new church at the end of August and hope to be involved in music ministry and a few other ministries I saw that caught my eye. It will be wonderful to be a part of a church family again. We really miss our old church. :-(

Dating? Have absolutely no desire whatsoever to date. I am keeping busy with me and the kids activities and that is fine with me. I have never had a problem not having a man in my life so I don't plan to start now. It's all good and I am not looking.

That is about it. I am happy, kids are happy, all is well.

I am removing myself from the drama of others and I do realize that when I stupidly looked at the myspace of others, I was essentially plopping myself right back into the middle of drama. I won't do that again. I may not be able to control the actions of others but I can control mine. And as long as the actions of others do not directly effect me and my children, I could care less. I know that I live my life the best that I can and raise my children the best way I can and that is all that matters. I can look myself in the mirror and know that I truly am a good person.

Anyway, those of you I have gotten to know, please do keep in touch.

Hi and Good bye. It has felt good to spread my wings and fly away from here, so fly I shall continue to do.

Hugs to you all,
mlhb