So yesterday i was looking threw some old phone records and saw before my wifes affair she was making and recieving phone calls quite a bit to someone else. So of course my first instinct was she was sleeping with that guy to so i questioned her, she got all mad and defensive and said cause that was someone she ws getting pot from. She wasnt having 20 min phone clls with him heck i dont even think one was over 4 mins and they werent all day long every day, but then she told me this guy had a crush on her. But to her hes unatravtive and wouldnt do anything with him, well i find that one hard to belive knowing what she did. So now i feel like all the progression we have made or that i have made trying to deal with this was just erased.


So hers my questions, she obviously enjoys hiding things from me can she ever change or will she always be this kind of person?
Should i just drop this other guy and just move on with recovery?


This really sucks cause i do wanna be married to her but im just so tired of dealing with this crap, why cant she just open up and tell me everything if she claims she wants this marriage so badly, but by her actions yesterday i just dont know now.