Hey everyone,

As you know I have a post going under "Wife still in fog or no....". I'm coming on close to 3 months since my WW left but am still trying to find hope that something might still work. I love her!

I've been trying to soak up as much info on here reading posts and the articles on MB. I'm trying to save my marriage and knowledge is POWER!!!

Anyways,here is my issue...

MB practice is Plan A, Plan B and expose your WW to ANYONE that would have influence on her, including parents.

I've seen quite a few menbers here mention of the "180" from the book Divorce Busters. It says directly, Do not ask WW's parents for any help. Show WW you're stong, women don't like weak men.

I'm currently using both practices, (examples)

I'm still in Plan A even though my WW for the last couple weeks has been Plan B'ing me. She's gone to NC but she is reading the light-hearted emails I send and keeps them....
I'm using the 180 right now to try to keep busy and social etc. and am telling my WW in those light-hearted emails that I'm busy, I'm strong, I'm making positive changes, and btwn the lines, showing her that I care.

There's other examples but wondering how people feel about this conflict of principles,

What has worked for you????

Exposing is not asking for help. Exposing forces the affair out into the light. WW parent's knowing can lead to them showing disaproval, and WW feeling embarrassed when those close to her find out how poorly she is conducting herself.

Time to plan B WW.