I have been trying to get access to my husband's email account without success. Yes, for so many reasons I suspect he is doing a lot of things behind my back, unfaithful(maybe emotionally) being one of them. The last time I demanded for his password and he gave me his password to 3 different email accounts and swore that he didn't have anymore. I discovered that he did. He no longer checks his emails at home unlike before so there's no point installing a spector pro.He has many computers and laptops in his own office.

I've decided that demanding for password is a dumb thing to do because the moment he gives me his password, he would definitely make sure that he doesn't receive anymore unwanted emails in those accounts!

HOW DO I CRACK HIS PASSWORD?? Can anyone give suggestions?

Sadly I've gotten good at this since my H has cheated before and I started snooping at his accounts years ago. I discovered pictures of the OW on my home computer. It made me suspicious so I started looking through his accounts. I have access to his emails (we have aol) so I usually check those first and he probably knew I was so he was deleting stuff as it came in. However what I did on aol is did a "search" and put the name of the suspicious email name in and it brought up a letter I assume he thought he had deleted but was still in the archives. It was only one but it told me what I needed to know.
I knew he could recieve emails on his Blackberry so when he was sleeping I got into that to look for pictures and emails. I found both! I found an email account and broke password by answering the security question. All you have to do is go to the "I forgot my password" option and see if you can answer the questions. My H picked ones I knew. It gives you a hint (like pet's name etc) It may opt to send the new password to an alternate account so if you have access to one of those maybe you can have it sent to that email and then get it that way.
You may have to do some snooping while he's in bed or at work and be sure it's the computer he uses most. Check all the history on the computer. If the history is turned off or set to erase each day change the setting to save longer (like 30 days) so you can see what been he's doing. Another way I found out he was cheating a while back is I Googled his full name and all his email accounts that I knew of to see what came up. I found out he was posting stuff on BDSM web sites and looking for women. Hope some of this helps.

Thanks so much vegmom. Will try the I forgot password thing. Was going to but was afraid he would find out that I was snooping around and change accounts or get another new one, then what would be the point?? I'm so sorry for what you have gone through. I read your post but didn't know what to reply because really wouldn't know to do.I know mine looks at porn too but hopefully that's it.I'm more concerned about the women he meets at work.

Kim,

be careful even asking anything that might arouse his suspicion. Waywards are vile creatures who will do anything to get what they want. He might go further underground if he even suspects you're on to him. My wife did...

Anyway, google Spectorsoft. You can install this on the computer and find his password out that way.

Stay strong.

I'm wondering if there is a way to restore accounts and deleted emails from the server once they have been deleted? Anyone know?

I did a search and found this website which seems quite good. I haven't had time to do anything because my mum will be around for the next few days and this is something I need to do when I am all alone.There seems to be a lot more but I didn't have time to go through them.
http://www.freedownloadmanager.org/downloads/restore_deleted_email_software/

Walking the Field gave the following info to me a couple of years ago. It works for Outlook Express. You could also put a call out for help accessing deleted e-mail on General Questions II.

Lake



Close Microsoft Outlook.

This registry "hack" works in all version from Outlook 98 and up.

Start the registry editor (regedit.exe).

Go to the follwing key in the registry.

HKEY_LOCAL_MACHINE\SOFTWARE\Microsoft\Exchange\Client\Options

On the edit menu, click add value and the following registry value: Value name: DumpsterAlwaysOn Type: DWORD Set the data value to 1.

exit the registry editor.

This should allow you to recover deleted items that no longer reside in "deleted items"

Restart microsoft outlook.

To use the newly enable recovery feature: Go to the directory they were stored in: (inbox, etc...) Select the Tools menu. Select Recover Deleted items, a new dialog box will appear and recently deleted items for that folder will magically appear, If you want the buttons will give you the option to recover them. This will work in ALL folders.

Lake53 - I am in the same situation - we do have Microsoft 98 version. But, I believe WH has his email thru Yahoo or some other site. Would using your method to retrieve emails work if they aren't using the Microsoft email system?

A key logger will record the passwords like magic.

I also did the "I forgot my password" trick with my wife's Verizon account and just logged in using her password.

Also, your best friend will be a digital camera to record the images of the e-mails and the text messages on the screen of the computer and phone.

You also need to get a digital voice recorder in the car pronto and make sure you change it out while he's asleep, or better yet if you send him to the store, have him use YOUR car while you change the recorder out in his.

I became a master at snooping undetected and got the goods on my wife in the first try, then built up mountains of evidence.

Funny thing, OMW was doing the same thing too as her husband was trying to convince her she was also crazy like my wife was trying to cinvince me that I was.

Yes my hubby had a hotmail account. I also think he deleted it which may make recovery impossible now. I don't know if the emails are stored in a data file somewhere and how to retreve them even using this program. This proram seems to only work on Outlook. I need to get the data from hotmail.

As far as I know, it will just retrieve items from Microsoft. But you never know what you will find as waywards are sloppy and don't always think clearly. It is worth a try on the computer since it is free.

You can also use the trusty "PrintScreen" button on your keyboard. Push "Shift" and "PrintScreen" at the same time, then, go to a blank Word/WordPerfect document and "right click" "paste". It will paste the image on your screen into a Word or WP document that you can print out. You can also play with the image to enlarge it or reduce it. You can also save the doc with a password protection so no one else can access it if you don't delete it immediately.

I typed in his hotmail ID and then said forgot password.I keep getting a message that says windows live ID incorrect. Does it mean that he no longer uses this address? I copied it from a social networking site. I know its him because he listed our home address.

I am very sure that he has another email address somewhere because all his social friends are not in the contact list of the 3 email addresses that he gave me.How do I find his other email address?Grr...have tried google, AOL, everthing but so far nothing...If I install spector pro or something on the off chance that he might check his mails when I am not at home, will he find out? He was very against me installing net nanny to monitor my children.

I never see him checking anything apart from work emails at home, ie the 3 addresses that I have aready demanded password for! He used to close his emails and pretend that he was looking at some other website when I walked into the room but he doesn't do that anymore. He is so careful now.

On the "Just Found Out" forum where you have this thread, go to For Newly Betrayed Spouses toward the top. It is posted by Longhorn. Click on that thread and scroll down to "spying 101". A new window will open up re spying. Install the key logger of your choice. But keep in mind what is described in that if you have some sort of Norton or equivalent on your computer, you have to set it up so that Norton allows the key logger. If you have more questions, just post a thread on the General Questions II forum.

He is not so careful as to not use the home computer at all. I doubt that he has that level of self-control. Get a key logger on your home computer!! Ask for help on General Questions II if you need more help doing it--but DO IT!

Is the address old maybe? I know my hubby has deleted several accounts in the past and changed to a new one. He may have deleted the account so you couldn't find it.
If he's against installing a program to monitor your kids he probably is up to something.
There are programs that can be installed that will spy and tell what web sites he goes to. Maybe you can install one when he's not around.

Is the address old maybe? I know my hubby has deleted several accounts in the past and changed to a new one. He may have deleted the account so you couldn't find it.
If he's against installing a program to monitor your kids he probably is up to something.
There are programs that can be installed that will spy and tell what web sites he goes to. Maybe you can install one when he's not around. Did you go to the web history and check that? Make sure it's turned on. If he's been to a email site it may bring up the new address when you click on the link from history.
Also if you use Google, when you type a letter in the search area it will bring up all the other word searches ever done starting with that letter. So if you type "S" and the word "sex" has been Googled it will come up. You could just do that and go through the alphabet looking at what he has searched. Go to any site he may have searched or been to. You may find something with his name or ID on it like a chat forum.
How about his cell phone? Can he receive emails? Maybe you should check out his address list on his phone.
Also, do a search on all addresses listed on his contact list. If you are on AOL you can search the emails using the email search option. I did that and it brought up what I was looking for.

Kim,
If he gets on the computer AT ALL at home, it would be wise to get a key logger. If he has an OW, he is addicted and he won't be able to help but attempt to retrieve a message or make contact on your home computer when he thinks he can get away with it.

The hotmail message that you are receiving means that he does not have an email using that name. But hotmail has more than one ending. (e.g. hotmail.com and msn.com and I think they even have live.com now)

Keep being diligent, you will find what you are looking for.