Hello, anyone interested in reading my story so far - feel free, it's below in my sig. I just had a quick question re. exposure. Here is the situation summed up:

- WS caught on July 8th
- Want's out, shows no signs of recovery
- I'm plan A'ing best I can
- WS sent me separation letter from her lawyer
- I'm stalling...and doing all the things you wonderful people have advised me to (trying my best anyway...)

I exposed the day after the A. It has not done me much good. OM does not have a spouse, and very few family members. About a week or so after the A, I found his parents number and stuck it in my wallet with their names with the intention of calling. When I did call, his father hung up on me as soon as I introduced myself. WS snooped through my wallet, found their number and told OM who obviously advised his parents.

Exposure has not worked all that well for me to this point. Although I've hit WS with exposure from all angles, OM has nothing to feel uncomfortable about.

My question: If I find OM on Facebook, should I expose via message to his Friends network? At least the ones that have the same last name (family)?

Thanks.

Cut her finances to zero.

The affair needs to be starved, they can only live off of "love" for so long before reality sets in.

Not sure I understand your comment re. finances

Which leads me to another question re. finances. I caught WS and OM again last night. That's 3 times..

We own 2 vehicles. 1 we purchased less than a year ago, and we are paying off monthly. The other is a piece of crap that my sister gave me. This morning when she was getting gas in the piece of crap, she pulled the hood pop instead of the gas pop, and then drove on the highway. The hood flew open and smashed the windshield. Luckily she is fine, but the car is not. It has no insurance that covers that type of thing, lucky if I could get $1000 for it.

It's hard, because while she pursues the separation and I drag my feet, we are living together. We need 2 cars... When she gets her separation she wants to lease her own new car, but until then?

On one hand, not fixing it will make it more difficult for her to see OM - however not having a second vehicle also limits my abilities....

It's really up to me, as it's the car my sister gave me that WS wrecked. Thoughts?

Let her drive the mess.

Sign it over to her and cancel the insurance.

Let her have zero money of your's.

I would not let WW have access to my car. Cancel insurance on second car. My state damaged windshield will not pass inspection.

Let OM provide a car or fail to provide her a car.
WW complains: Ask her: What BH will give his wife a car to go bang her OM?

Expose facebook, assbook, myspace, yourspace, theirspace. Expose anyway you can get in his face.

Whose name is on the car that is financed?

Since daddy hung up on you, you might want to write him a letter letting him know that his son has started an adulterous relationship with a married woman.

All of the current publicity about Edwards might set the right atmosphere; Edwards is perceived as being a monumental phoney and jerk.

Larry

In my state,windshields have to be replaced at no charge. I'm in Florida.
I'd snoop in your wife's purse,computer,anywhere. She's doing this to you therefore helping the idiot OM.
Is he married? Out him to the wife and other family members.

Here's the situation.

I did write OM's parents a letter about a week ago. OM has no spouse or close family that I can expose to. I've exposed to his friends and co-workers.

Re. car - it's difficult as we are still living together while "her" separation paperworks takes shape. We have the 2 cars, I believe my name is on both of them. While we are living together for the next while, it will be very hard for us both to only have 1 car. We can't afford another payment right now, but could swing the repairs.

At this point, all our finances are still together, with me dealing with them all. She never has a clue how much is in her account, or how to even pay a bill. If the car is to be fixed now, I would have to figure out how to fix it. Additionally, that car we don't drive the kids in, so whoever is driving/picking up kids uses the new one.

I detect a reality train bearing down on our ww. Ouch! She is willing to throw the kids under the bus, only to find herself in the same position. Likely she will want custody for the financial benefits.

Larry