New Here. I discovered the MB website and learning so much. The main thing is there are so many of us here. I'm shocked at all the pain I read. I have been through shock and crying, I am in full-blown ANGER well....actually RAGE stage now. How on earth do you control your anger? at H and OW? How do you raise kids while trying to control it, get them to school, help with homework etc. How much can one handle?

H's affair went on 13 months. We are in counseling, a Christian counselor. I have to forgive him, he made a very very bad mistake I am told. He is sorry and remorseful. But I am an explosion waiting to happen. How do you contain it?

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Hello Delta,

sorry you find yourself here. If you stich around a while though you will learn loads and hopefully get through all of this. I am so sorry this is happening to you.

That being said, could you give us a little more background??? Is the A over? How long ago did it end?? Did you expose and to whom???

Now, the above quote. Does he say this or did the MC say this??? WEll, anyway, you have been through a MAJOR TRAUMA. YOu don't just "get over it" and an affair is not a "bad mistake". A bad mistake is forgetting to put the trash to the curb for a week, or forgetting to pay the housepayment. Heck, it may even be forgetting your kid at their after-school activity. Not an affair.

Dr. Harley likens an affair to that of rape or death of a child. So whoever is telling you this, is not being respectful of your feelings.

Now, that being said, what you are feeling is normal. And while you may want to go all Carrie Underwood on his car or just beat the crap out of him, well, ya can't. That being said it is hard to control the anger. I know. I have been there many many times.

How to control and deal with it?? Well, that gets a little trickier. For me journaling works well. So does working out. and when things REALLY get bad, I come here and let it all out. I encurage you to do that. YOu will find you are not alone and you will find help.......

Hopefully that helps.

Oh, and welcome to the club nobody wanted to be a part of......it is a great place to be.......

((((((Delta))))))

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