I am feeling very frustrated...how many women wish their husbands would sometimes leave them alone sexually yet here I am on the other end of the spectrum wishing my husband desired me more and had more passion for me. I don't know what to do about it. I know he loves me however from the beginning I always wondered about his libido...he just never really 'desired' me the way other men have. I am attractive, maybe put on a little weight but not much, and I do have a regular to high libido. I'm not asking for sex 2 times a day let alone a week, but I would be somewhat satisfied with once a week. That is a chore sometimes. He has a million reasons of why we don't and I'm really finding it hard to live with. For the last year or so I've been quieter about it, but then he had an affair and I was still quiet about it but now I'm feeling agitated about it again. I guess I thought that when our relationship would start to get stronger it would include our sex life.
I know I can't change him and all I can do is change myself...so what do I do? Do i try and change my attitude towards sex? How do I 'not' feel like I'm not sexy enough etc?? any positive and honest constructive advice is really appreciated. For those of you who may want to read other posts, I've been here off and on for a little under a year so you can read my history there.

I'm a male with the same problem. Consider to have a medium to above average libido. I know this problem is more common for the male end of the spectrum, but I can feel your hurt regardless. It's often more painful to consider that my mate does not feel the same for me, rather than me not getting my needs met. Then the feelings are exacerbated by the fact that I still love my wife and would do just about anything to met her needs. It's a hard road. I wish you luck.