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And another DCFC, reminds me of my wife when I was bleeding to death.
"What Sarah Said"
And it came to me then that every plan is a tiny prayer to father time As I stared at my shoes in the ICU that reeked of piss and 409 And I rationed my breaths as I said to myself that I'd already taken too much today As each descending peak on the LCD took you a little farther away from me Away from me
Amongst the vending machines and year-old magazines in a place where we only say goodbye It stung like a violent wind that our memories depend on a faulty camera in our minds But I knew that you were a truth I would rather lose than to have never lain beside at all And I looked around at all the eyes on the ground as the TV entertained itself
'Cause there's no comfort in the waiting room Just nervous pacers bracing for bad news And then the nurse comes round and everyone will lift their heads But I'm thinking of what Sarah said that "Love is watching someone die"
So who's going to watch you die?..
I watch, and am as a sparrow alone upon the house top.
Here are a couple of great love songs from Marty Balin, founding member of Jefferson Airplane.
Beautifully written words...
I know, they're a little dated. Just like me.
"Miracles" If only you believe like I believe, baby We'd get by If only you believe in miracles, baby So would i If only you believe like I believe, baby Wed get by If only you believe in miracles, baby So would i.
I might have to move heaven and earth to prove It to you, baby So were makin love and you feel the power And I feel the power Then theres really nothing that we can't do If we wanted to, baby We could exist on the stars It'd be so easy All we gotta do Is get a little faith in you Oh, Ive been (to) so many places Ive seen some things I know, love is the answer Keeps holding this world together Aint nothing better Aint nothing better And all the answers to our prayers Hell , its the same everywheres, baby Nothing ever breaks up the heart Only tears give you away Then you're right where I found ya With my arms around ya Oh baby, baby, baby, love is a magic word, yeah Few ever find in a lifetime But from that very first look in your eyes I knew you and I had but one heart Only our bodies were apart That was so easy, so easy I had a taste of the real world When I went down on you, girl.
If only you believe like I believe, baby We'd get by If only you believe in miracles, baby So would i If only you believe like I believe, baby We'd get by If only you believe in miracles, baby So would i.
I can hear windmills and rainbows Whenever youre talkin' to me I feel like swirling and dancin' Whenever you're walking with me You ripple like a river when I touch you When I pluck your body like a string When I start dancin inside ya Oh baby, you make me wanna sing Yeah, baby, baby, baby, baby Oh yeah, all right Baby, were sure doin it tonight Everytime you come by, let me try Pretty, please sugar on it Thats how I like it I can't even believe it, with you Its like having every dream I ever wanted Come true I picked up your vibes You know it opened my eyes But I'm still dreamin yeah And you're right where I found ya With my arms around ya.
Refrain (2x)
AND
"Count on Me"
Precious love Ill give it to you Blue as the sky and deep in the Eyes if a love so true Beautiful face You make me feel Lite on the stairs and lost in the Air of a love so real
And you can count on me girl You can count on my love woman You can count on me baby You can count on my love to see you through
Emerald eyes and china perfume Caught in the wheel and lost in The feel of a love so soon Ruby lips You make my song Into the night and saved by the lite Of a love so strong
Chorus: See you thru ....oooh You can count on me girl You can count on my love
Last edited by TryTooHard; 08/16/0804:59 PM.
BH(me): 40ish FWW:(ILMH) 28yo DS 3yo Married 7yrs Together 10 yrs
??? Spring '07 - Adultery Begins 8/25/07 - 1st D-day (week of our anniv.) 8/07 thru 5/08 - About a dozen D-days/Gaslighting/Flaunting/Fake Recoveries
She finally quit on...
1/1/08 - First real NC attempt(Maybe?) 3/1/08 - Told me OM is an A**hole.(Hope?) 5/3/08 - D-day (Admitted to PA once) 5/4/08 - Latest D-day(Finally confessed to multiple EA/PA in our home) 5/8/08 - Present Struggling to hold on
It's not the correct interpretation of the song, but I always think "Plan A Song" when I hear this...ya know, the crazy emotions you are going through but you have to control it and not LB.
(ps...if you like this song, check out the video for "Hate Me", about addiction, etc. Not infidelity related but amazingly good.)
"X Amount of Words" by Blue October
Relapse prevent Trigger Intent Now Drown High Strung Say X Amount of Words
Your solar bipolar panic Disorder seems Harder and Harder and Harder Still you try to control it You mold you mold Yeah you shape to mold Oh you're bold you're bold But your shape is bold
You're symptom superficial To what they call knowing you Minus the speed Can you imagine the phobia?
Your brain is faulty wiring The reason for tiring Keep treating the curse Imagine the worst Systematic, Sympathetic Quite pathetic Apologetic Paramedic Your heart is prosthetic
A plate of quite peculiar On a dish of my own A tablespoon of feather Tickle me to the bone Give me recipies for happy With the chemicals gone Drinking freedom from a bottle To the tune of belong.
(I can't believe.. believe..) (I can't believe.. believe..) MAYBE!!!I'm sick of shaking Never waking from the hell I achieve I never knew you till you left me with the Crying Disease Another curing reasurring way to Buckle the knees So mistreated I repeated never Blessing your Sneeze
Deleted and defeated I will stand on my own Yeah your memory that punches me Has broken the bone
Give me recipies for sorry I'm admitting I'm wrong Still your memory that punches me Has broken the bone.
Sometimes a love song comes out that is so meaningful, you just have to share it.
Tina, by Quincy Punx
Now that I'm blind I can finally see It's a beautiful thing that'd happened to me Among the living dead is where I wanna be Let me eat your brain and I'm sure that you'll agree
Oh Tina if you really love me You'll let me eat your brain
My life has gone now and passed away But death is a party I'm here to say Send more cops Come out to play Come on little baby and I'll show you the way
Oh Tina if you really love me You'll let me eat your brain
Let me eat your brain Let me eat your brain Let me eat your brain Let me eat your brain
Oh Tina if you really love me You'll let me eat your brain
Out in the graveyard in the acid rain I know a way that you can ease my pain Try it once and you'll never be the same Come on be my ghoulfriend and let me eat your brain
Oh Tina if you really love me You'll let me eat your brain
I watch, and am as a sparrow alone upon the house top.
Now where did you come up with that one? I have fairly diverse tastes and have never heard of Quincy Punx. I like the title of their "Cereal Killer". If your XW is named Tina I will ROTFLMAO.
I tend to think about "The Pretender" by The Foo Fighters as being a song that approaches how I feel about the XW.
Me: 48 XW: 44 DD: 15 Lived Together: 7 Married: 18 Total: 25 years W announced divorce 11-3-2006, I moved out 11-7-2006, served papers 11-8-2006. Divorce final 12-19-2006. Life gets better every day.
Amen to that one.....Don't you all find it kind of funny that infidels would have a song for "them" about trying TO BE faithful, when reality is they ARE NOT BEING faithful????....ironic, bordering on moronic...
I know this thread is all about the stupid A's and "break-up" crap, but with being in Recovery and all that I hope to attain with WS this song reminds me of the here and now.....I cry when I hear it, yet it fills me with hope, because in the end, it was our love that remained......(besides, who wants to be stuck in the past????... )
"Love Remains the Same"
by Gavin Rossdale
A thousand times I've seen you standing Gravity like lunar landing You make me wanna run till I find you I shut the world away from here I drift to you, you're all I hear As everything we know fades to black
Half the time the world is ending Truth is I am done pretending
I never thought that I Had anymore to give You're pushing me so far Here I am without you Drink to all that we have lost Mistakes we have made Everything will change But,love remains the same
I find a place where we escape Take you with me for the space The city buzz sounds just like a fridge I walk the streets through seven bars I have to find just where you are The faces seem to blur They're all the same
Half the time the world is ending Truth is I am done pretending
I never thought that I Had anymore to give You're pushing me so far Here I am without you Drink to all that we have lost Mistakes we have made Everything will change But love remains the same
So much more to say So much to be done Don't you trick me out We shall overcome It's all left still to play
We - we could have had the sun Could have been inside Instead we're over here
Half the time the world is ending Truth is I am done pretending Too much time too long defending You and I are done pretending
I never thought that I Had anymore to give You're pushing me so far Here I am without you Drink to all that we have lost Mistakes we have made Everything will change Everything will change
I, oh I, I wish this could last forever I, oh I, as if this could last forever
Now where did you come up with that one? I have fairly diverse tastes and have never heard of Quincy Punx. I like the title of their "Cereal Killer". If your XW is named Tina I will ROTFLMAO.
My XSIL is named Tina.
I sent the song to XBIL as his sense of humor is as twisted as mine is.
I watch, and am as a sparrow alone upon the house top.
My husband and I have been through a lot, just as everyone else here has. We are more in love than ever and this is our theme song. He bought me a Tiffany bracelet for our anniversary this year and had "I am the luckiest" engraved on it. Best gift I have ever received.
I don't get many things right the first time In fact, I am told that a lot Now I know all the wrong turns, the stumbles and falls Brought me here And where was I before the day That I first saw your lovely face? Now I see it everyday And I know That I am I am I am The luckiest
What if I'd been born fifty years before you In a house on a street where you lived? Maybe I'd be outside as you passed on your bike Would I know? And in a wide sea of eyes I see one pair that I recognize And I know That I am I am I am The luckiest
I love you more than I have ever found a way to say to you Next door there's an old man who lived to his nineties And one day passed away in his sleep And his wife; she stayed for a couple of days And passed away I'm sorry, I know that's a strange way to tell you that I know we belong That I know That I am I am I am The luckiest
Me 37 H 42 Daughters 18 and 16 Continuously working at not taking each other for granted.
I heard this song today and I found it really amusing because it made me feel good. It's a pop song, more for the teen crowd (musically, not lyric wise) than myself, but I liked some of the words. It was written and performed by Pink, who, not that long ago, got divorced.
So What by Pink I guess I just lost my husband I don't know where he went So I'm gonna drink my money I'm not gonna pay his rent (Nope) I got a brand new attitude And I'm gonna wear it tonight I wanna get in trouble I wanna start a fight
Na Na Na Na Na Na Na I wanna start a fight Na Na Na Na Na Na Na I wanna start a fight
So so what? I'm still a rock star I got my rock moves And i don't need you And guess what I'm having more fun And now that we're done I'm gonna show you tonight I'm alright, I'm just fine And you're a tool So so what? I am a rock star I got my rock moves And i don't want you tonight
Uh, check my flow, uh
The waiter just took my table And gave to Jessica Simp- [censored]! I guess I'll go sit with drum boy At least he'll know how to hit What if this song's on the radio Then somebody's gonna die I'm gonna get in trouble My ex will start a fight
Na Na Na Na Na Na Na He's gonna start a fight Na Na Na Na Na Na Na We're all gonna get in a fight!
So so what? I'm still a rock star I got my rock moves And i don't need you And guess what I'm having more fun And now that we're done I'm gonna show you tonight I'm alright, I'm just fine And you're a tool So so what? I am a rock star I got my rock moves And i don't want you tonight You weren't there You never were You want it all But that's not fair I gave you life I gave my all You weren't there You let me fall
This is just an ordinary day Wipe the insecurities away I can see that the darkness will erode Looking out the corner of my eye I can see that the sunshine will explode Far across the desert in the sky
Beautiful girl Won't you be my inspiration? Beautiful girl Don't you throw your love around What in the world, what in the world Could ever come between us? Beautiful girl, beautiful girl I'll never let you down Won't let you down
This is the beginning of your day Life is more intricate than it seems Always be yourself along the way Living through the spirit of your dreams
Beautiful girl Won't you be my inspiration? Beautiful girl Don't you throw your love around What in the world, what in the world Could ever come between us? Beautiful girl, beautiful girl I'll never let you down Won't let you down Down, down...
I watch, and am as a sparrow alone upon the house top.
I think it should be the MB Forum theme son for BS's....but that's just me....lol.
Broken, Beat and Scarred
by: Metallica
You rise, you fall, youre down then you rise again What dont kill you make you more strong You rise, you fall, youre down then you rise again What dont kill you make you more strong
Rise, fall, down, rise again What dont kill you make you more strong Rise, fall, down, rise again What dont kill you make you more strong
Through black days Through black nights Through pitch black insights
Breaking your teeth on the hard life coming Show your scars Cutting your feet on the hard earth running Show your scars Breaking your life, broken beat and scarred But we die hard
The dawn, the death, the fight to the final breath What dont kill you make you more strong The dawn, the death, the fight to the final breath What dont kill you make you more strong
Dawn, death, fight, final breath What dont kill you make you more strong Dawn, death, fight, final breath What dont kill you make you more strong
They scratched me They scraped me They couldnt rape me
Breaking your teeth on the hard life coming Show your scars
Cutting your feet on the hard earth running Show your scars
Breaking your life, broken beat and scarred But we die hard
Breaking your teeth on the hard life coming Show your scars
Cutting your feet on the hard earth running Show your scars
Braiding your soul in a hard luck story Show your scars
Spilling your blood in a hot suns foray Breaking your life, broken, beat and scarred
We die hard We die hard We die hard
Click link to listen to Broken, Beat and Scarred...
She wouldn't spit on me if I was on fire. She says she loves me, but I know she's a liar. The sex is good, but God she's got no desire. That's alright. She's takin' me home tonight.
She's kind of cold, but yet she's hot on the outside. Last night got nasty and I'm still kind of tongue tied. I hate to say it, but she brings out my sick side. That's alright. She's takin' me home tonight.
She's got whole lot of love (Any way you want it) But it's never enough (Finish what you started) Take me to heaven above (And leave me brokenhearted) But I won't be a fool and fight it. She's gonna use me but I like it. Yeah, yeah.
I bet she's wonderin' if I'm worth her while. She's judge and jury and she's got me on trial. But I ain't sweatin' cause I'm first on the speed dial. Yeah, that's right, she's takin' me home tonight.
She always leaves and makes me feel kind of sleazy. It's kind of cool because she already pleased me. I'm lying here just thinking this is too easy. Yeah, that's right, she's takin' me home tonight.
She's got a whole lot of love (Anyway you want it) But it's never enough (Finish what you started) Take me to heaven above (And leave me brokenhearted) But I won't be a fool and fight it.
She's got a whole lot of love (Anyway you need it) But I've run out of luck (Now she says she leavin) Leavening me in the dust (But that's ok, we're leavin') But I won't be a fool and fight it.
She's gonna use me but I like it. (Like it) She's gonna use me but I like it. Yeah, yeah.
I think I might go with the safe bet this time.
She's got a whole lot of love. (Anyway you want it) But it's never enough (Finish what you started) Take me to heaven above (And leave me brokenhearted) But I won't be a fool and fight it.
She's got a whole lot of love (Anyway you need it) But I've run out of luck (Now she says she leavin) Leaving me in the dust (But that's ok we're leavin) But I won't be a fool and fight it.
And darling I just can't deny it. Because you use me and I like it. (Like it) Because you use me and I like it. (Like it)
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