Our son was so hurt by his ex-wife. They hadn't even been married a year when he caught her with a much older man at this man's house.
Fast forward. Our son didn't want to reconcile because he felt she would just do it again.
She was really furious because we let our son come back to us while the divorce was going through. In our state,it's no fault. The person living in the domicile is responsible for all the bills. She screamed at our son then begged for another chance then asked how he could do this to her. :RollieEyes:
She started taunting him at work (all of then worked together) saying she was going to have him served at work so they could all know what a bad H he was.
He asked for our advice and we told him it was best to have her served at home. Having her served at work would stop people from working as they stared at her being served and his bosses would not appreciate it.
So,his lawyer had a police officer serve her with divorce papers at home. She went into a total melt down. She came into work,screaming at our son,waving the divorce papers saying he could have given then to her himself. (Did I mention she's not very smart?lol)
Our son was called into the bosses office and they asked him why he had her served at work. Our son told them she had been served at home and she brought the divorce papers into work and threw a fit. They said they understood. As he walked back to his work station,she was there and started screaming at him. The boss came out and told them they were not to EVER talk to each other which was fine with my son.
Oh,it was a soap opera. She and this older man were caught having sex.....at work.....by her boss. They were both fired and my son came out smelling like a rose. He's been remarried to a wonderful girl for 4 years now.
So,what's your opinion? Should they be served at home or at work?

I had my xw served at work, on valentine's day in front of everyone.

The divorce DID lead to her getting fired.

*chuckles*

My WstbxH has (and still is as far as I know) threatened to serve me at work. Honestly, I couldn't care less and in fact he'd have a much better chance catching me at work. Divorce is so common nowadays. People will look, sure, but if it generates any gossip, it won't last long. Everybody here knows I'm separated so what's the big deal if they know I'm divorced?

(for the record, the only reason I am not filing is because I did the work for the separation agreement. In my jurisdiction, that is the document that settles everything - a divorce itself is only required to get remarried. He wants to marry his OW so he can file the paperwork and spend the $50 or whatever it is for his certificate.)

Well,my ex-DIL did herself in like I knew she would. WE didn't see her terrible emotional problems til after the wedding,of course. I felt so bad for my son,having to work with them. The OM is twice his age and was also a BS. He cried about his W cheating then turned around and did this to our son.
We just kept telling him to play it cool and that they would take care of themselves. And they did.:)
Our son remarried 6 years later to a wonderful young lady. They have been married 4 years now. His ex-wife? No one knows where she is. She's on the run from creditors.:)

Divorce should be kept private. Unless there is a reason to be vindictive it should be done at home. There is no reason to take a matter between two people and make it anyone elses problem.

I still say get the sin out in the open, something they can be proud of for all to see.

For the most part this is true and it's the one who makes it public that looks bad - as I said I have no fear of being served at work, they know my situation. However, there are all sorts of additional circumstances that may play into it. I don't blame Pariah one bit for what he did. If I were the one to be filing in my case, I would have WstbxH served at work because (a) that's where he had his affair and (b) his work did nothing about it when I exposed him to his boss (and OW was his subordinate) so I would think it highly appropriate that he receive his papers there. But I'm not filing.

I can understand that, but isn't that usually done (or should be done) way before being served? Perhaps it's a reminder to coworkers that WS hasn't changed?

I think Pariah did what was right for him.
As it was,my ex-DIL made a real scene anyway,bringing the divorce papers from home. Our son said she walked in the building and just started screaming at him and waving the papers in his face.
She is such a damaged young lady. Her mother is a convicted felon (embezzlement) and her father has an uncontrollable temper. They have been divorced for years.
A few days after making "the scene" at work,she actually wanted to try to reconcile but it was too late. My son counts himself lucky to have gotten out of the marriage when he did.

I could have my now-x served by anyone who was not family by blood or marriage.

When the server could not serve him at work or home because he was not at either place, the papers came back to me. I took them to our marriage counselor who served him.

Well,by law here,it has to be served by a process server. In this case,it was a police officer. And my ex-DIL had a melt down over it. I don't know what she expected,really. She's the one that had the A. She called one day from the Mall saying that her "ride" wanted to stay awhile at the Mall and my son was to pick her up. Yea,right. Her "ride" was the OM who dropped her off at the Mall after an afternoon of fun. I just told her I didn't know where my son was.
She was just mad that she was served before she could have my son served. This tramp actually "offered" to let my son have the master bedroom and she and the OM would take the smaller room and our son could pay half the rent and they could all be friends. Things didn't turn out like she TOLD my son they would. She didn't expect him to walk away and was stunned when he did. :RollieEyes:
She was a piece of work,let me tell you. But she's gone and my son is better off for it.

I wasn't "served". I received my papers via certified mail at home.

Jewelldy, my WstbxH was much the same as your DIL. His initial plan was to keep the house - he even had a great story to convince me that almost worked! Then he was going to move OW in - telling me they had just met AFTER our breakup (yeah - like in 5 days he could dump me, meet someone, fall in love and decide to live together) but that I could still stay at the house with them!!! She (OW) went as far as telling OWH where she was going to be living and looking into schools for their DD. :RollieEyes:

So again, if I were filing, WstbxH would be served at work without question.

I think it's always going to depend on each individual situation. Personally, I couldn't have my WW served at home because I didn't know where her home was after she moved away.

I had my ex-H served by my mother while he was at work. Nothing happened, thank God. I think it's best to have the person served where there can be witnesses. That's just my personal opinion.

Oh, I forgot...when my x filed for a petition for a divorce (which he wanted dismissed a year later), I was never served. I found the papers in an envelope at my back door. No one gave them to me. I didn't sign for them. Nothing, just found them at the back door.