I just found out that the 'investigation' into the underage Chinese gymnasts has already been concluded and the decision has been announced that since the fraudulent passports state they are old enough to compete, the matter is now 'settled'... (never mind the evidence otherwise from past gymnastic events).

This is an example we can look at that might help WS's understand what it looks like to outsiders (those not affected by the addiction/fog) when they claim they have 'tried' but the marriage is simply not salveageable (sp?)...

I don't know, maybe from the WS perspective it really does feel as if they've put in an enormous amount of effort and time when they 'commit' to 'trying'... for a few days or weeks...only to have it turn out to be yet another brief and brutal false recovery (from the BS perspective)?

All I can say is the fog must be mighty murky to convince those in it that they really did 'try', AND to allow them to believe that those of us observing from the outside will of course agree with their conclusion!