I have a little frustration right now. Now with H...but with his family. His sister is in a bit of a bind financially and maritally. She lives an hour away. Here it is, a holiday and she's asked him to come up to her house ALONE and look over some stuff and advise her. Great!!! His family has NEVER done anything to remotely include me and they have this weird sense of privacy that they are very guarded about. So, now what do I do? I'm not invited and I'd feel like a dork if he called to say "I'm not coming if W is not invited." Frustration!!!!

Hi Fiori,
Just came back from mini vacation.
Sorry to hear about your frustrations - has it been a full moon? I've got plenty frustration in one day to last me all week.

About the family issue - is this a lovebuster for you? It appears there is some resentment towards your H and his family for the way they have treated you. You probably can't change the family behavior but you can work with H's behavior through the LB concept. I recently completed the Wife's LB questionnaire and realized my H's independent thinking really bothers me. There are two things that came up in questionnaire and I still haven't sat down to talk to H yet.

Here's my MC advice. Each spouse works at different pace. I could not expect my spouse to work at my pace just as he had to give me my time to heal. Dr. Phil's advice to WS - you keep working at it and it takes as long as it takes for BS to feel secure in R. Fiori, I don't think you should feel guilty about not being ready to give all of you or move to next step. You have to do this when you feel ready. Sorry for more advice!

I hope you have a better day tomorrow. I think I'm going to attempt to talk to H about questionnaire (we're both home).

G