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My wife and are in the process of getting divorced after 4 years of marriage. We have a 2 year old son. When my wife was pregnant, she constantly reminded me of how miserable she was and how she wished she hadn’t kept “it”. After he was born, she basically wanted nothing to do with him. I don’t think she even loves our son, and she has resented me since she got pregnant. I have always wanted a big family, and she has decided that she "hates" kids. We decided to get divorced. Well, suddenly she said that she wants custody of Joshua. I’m scared and pissed off because I don’t know what will happen to him if she wins custody. I've been using http://www.custodywarriors.com (really helpful), but are there any other dads here who have been in a similar situation? What did you do?
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Jackpot baby.
Pay her off and take your son.
I watch, and am as a sparrow alone upon the house top.
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Hi jame84
I put a call out for medc (make every day count)in General Questions II. He's a full-custody dad and has a lot of insights in this area.
johnstwin-
"I may not know what the future holds, but I know who holds my future." -Martin Luther
Remarried my FXH 25 years to the day of our first M. God is so good-and sometimes so unexpected!
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Have you brought up joint custody?
Husband (me) 39
Wife 36
Daughter 21
Daughter 19
Son 14
Daughter 10
Son 8 (autistic)
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If you live in a state that allows 1 party consent for tape recording conversations...get something on tape that speaks to her hating being a mom.
Start documenting everything that happens.
Get a bull dog attorney that specializes in dad's rights.
Ask your wife what it will take for you to get full custody....then meet her price. She is most likely just using him as a pawn.
Has she been evaluated for postpartum depression.
If she has EVER been violent with your child...or threatened him in any way make sure you bring this up to your lawyer.
NEVER let her take him away without a court order. NEVER! We have another James here that is going through a horrible situation. You would do well to read his thread and learn from his early mistakes.
FIGHT...when you get weary...fight harder.
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Taken into Custody: The War Against Fatherhood, Marriage, and the Family by Stephen Baskerville Betrayal of the Child: A Father's Guide to Family Courts, Divorce, Custody and Children's Rights by Stewart Rein Divorce Poison: Protecting the Parent-Child Bond from a Vindictive Ex by Richard A. Warshak Divorced Dads: Shattering the Myths by Sanford L. Braver Throwaway Dads: The Myths and Barriers That Keep Men from Being the Fathers They Want to Be by Ross Parke, Armin Brott The Psycho Exwife
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