Im actually prepared for him not to be going at the last minute.If he does so believe me, ill help my friend move n drive back same day.But as per now she believes im going to spend the night there.

GF,

If your WW is not going to the shower anymore, and thinks that you are going out of town for the night...it stands to reason that she probably isn't going to the shower because this weekend is an easy weekend for her to see OM, with you being out of town for the night. I would bet dollars to donuts that work has nothing to do with her not going to the shower, and that you going out of town has everything to do with her not going.

OM is probably not going either.

If I were you I would brace myself, because this is a pretty clear cut case of them getting together while you are out of town.

Please be ready, and like I said...brace yourself.

I just wonder if:

1. His gf is going? Cause i dont see how he can be gone friday, saturday , Sunday and retirn Monday night and leave her alone( they live together) all labor day weekend.

2. If other men are going too?

a) if his gf is going then that would completely eliminate anything that would have happened unless it was a threesome.

Yes im ready.Im keeping my ears to the ground cause i wanna know he is on that bus. If he stays in town then id suspect that once im outta state helpn my buddy move, then they assuming im gone for saturday night, could plan something.Now the only way ill know is to do as im planning. To come back.
Ill find out what time shes working untill and plan my return for several hrs after that.Like if work is out at 6 pm then ill be home at 9 pm .

No i was also wondering what man goes to a baby shower.But i can only answer this if i know if there were other males going and if i know if his girlfriend was going.

I'm not very familiar with your sitch. Does OM's girlfriend know? Because if she does know...then she would most likely not be letting OM go out of town with your WW.

first of all how do u know she will have to work till 6?.. i mean its saturday so why work till that late? did she tell u that? or do u know for sure? Just that if this was under normal circumstances i would understand. But believe me and everyone on this board who have been through it. Do not believe anythign ur wife says to u at this point unless u know for sure. I hate to make u become paranoid but if she is in an affair then u have a good chance of finding out


Also if i were u i wouldnt wait till 9pm to get back if I knew that the other man was not on the bus. I would be back wayyy before that and then just wait it out near the house or go to her work place to see what happens. I understand its not a very comfortable thing to do and it will drive u nuts. But remember, its better to know now and be free of this menacing suspicion or u will keep going through it for next few wks and it will eat u alive. It really hurts going through this emotional turmoil preceeding the DDAY and then finding out and then going through the stinging pain again.

I would also check her purse for additional cell phones, credit card receipts, or anything suspicious like hotel reciepts etc. Also a key logger on the home computer is very improtant, especially since this weekend she will be all alone. She may have stopped texting but chatting is not off limits. Also do u have access to her email accoutns? The key logger will let u know for sure if somethings up. The cheating partners ussually go to chat or email for lifeline when their contact on cell phones are exposed.

Like everyone is saying...she may be gaslighting u and the affair just went further underground. And once this happens it becomes even more intense becoz its more secretive.

No i dont think OM gf knows

Yes i know shes workn till 6 pm cause she works till then every sat. Thats y she was wanting to get the day off so she could travel.

Good point about being home alone this weekend n using the computer. Do u have recommendations of cheap key loggers? I dont wanna spend a fortune.

Why doesn't the GF know?

i dont think gf suspects anything.If this goes on further then im going to let her know

So, your plan is to wait until you walk in on your WW giving the guy a hummer?...then tell OM's GF?

Tell her about your suspiscions....NOW!!!!

If you think you are going to be like a super-hero and swoop in right at the perfect momment...stop anything from happening...stop the affair...save your marriage...etc...you are wasting your time.

Tell his GF !!!

i agree with introvert. U need to tell his gf and also to see if she suspects anything. But make sure that you two dont let anythng explode till there is evidence otherwise it will just go even more underground. Plus its not like the OM is married. He will just dump his gf in a heartbeat which will send ur wife a strong message which will not be good.

Just search for a free key logger on yahoo. I cant beleive u havent downloaded it yet. U shoudl download it right now. Has she been on the computer a little more than before?

Also u didnt answer if u had access to her email accts and if u checked her purse yet.

Also see if she bought anything new for herself that u r not aware abt especially personal.

What is your plan of action for saturday? Are u just going to arrive home at 9 or were u going to sit outside and wait for something?

Another important thing to remember is that ur wife is going to make sure that u r away for sure before making a move. So either she will call u or ur friend for confirmation that u r really there(the guilty always want to cnfirm becoz they know what they are capable of and thus percieve of others). Anytime she calls, u know for sure that things are in motion.

I really hope for u that all this false. But red flags are flying high all over the place.

She just volunteerd that " after work im coming straight home to rug doctor the carpet in the living room and entire house".That is saturday when im gone. So i asked what time she leaves and she said 4 pm.
Dunno if that is innocent statement or what.

This is all such good info, i love the 15 point steps to sex posted above. All the info here is very good. Its good to talk to people in this situations cause someone will have a point of view you hadent thought about.
Yes i checked her pocket book no extra cell phone. No i dunno her passwords

I know she will rug doctor after work. Its been months since we cleaned it.

well it all depends on the OM now. If he goes then i should say u take this opportunity go and help ur friend move and then come back that day, suprse ur wife with flowers and stuff and take her out for a good dinner.

Also donot forget to install the key logger today. Very very important. If she knows u can check her phone records then it is very likely it is online now thru chats and emails. If nothing pops up then u know u still have her and can make ur marriage prosper again.

slicker yea u right.I just wanna know now that shes cleaning carpet cause it needs cleaning n not cause of anticipation of a guest.

Oh n i didnt know u can get key logger from yahoo for free??/ WHATS THE CATCH?