Today was the end of it for me. I did respond today hoping she would understand that the door is CLOSED. I won't respond again.

Good.

Seems to me it's kinda like voluntarily slamming your head in the oven door anyway.

The oven doesn't care, and you end up with a headache.

How goes it in the ABw/3 household?

Hey guys...things are going great. Seems WW might have gotten the message...no more texts this weekend.

Did get a few texts from N-OM's WW last night asking if I knew he and my WW had been together recently. I replied that I hated it for her but that I didn't care. I did recommend that she go online and try out some of these types of forums, but I didn't specifically give her MB. She seems VERY unstable and I prefer that my communications on here remain secret.

The kids started back to school today. They haven't seen or spoken to WW since last Wed. Not sure how she can survive that long, but it's a good thing for them right now.

Thanks again for all of your advice (and the occasional 2x4)...I don't know how I would have gotten to this point without you all!

Possibly your wife's financial needs will be taken care of after you divorce.

1. She can go on public assistance because of the pregnancy and birth if she won't work

2. She can continue to work if she wants to

3. She can nab the other man to get child support for her baby

4. She can have the baby and then meet another OM, to have another baby with.

If she continues to quit using birth control and have baby after baby, she can be on Public Assistance long term. This could happen. She might even get public housing.

That's how VD does it.

Pep - Thanks. Every once in awhile they just come to me.

Quick update: No calls, no texts, no nuthin'!!!

WW did call my son Monday evening and left a voice mail asking how his first day in sixth grade went...he's in the eighth !!!

I know, honest mistake, but it was a BIG deal to him!

To my knowledge, neither child has spoken to or replied to WW's texts since last Thursday. Can't say that I blame them!

Ouch.

I know you aren't supposed to be involved in this, but I wonder if her parents are still looking into getting her checked out (mentally and physically) and/or committed.

Your responsibility is toward your kids and yourself, I'm not saying you should step in and help or anything. Just wondering, cus this seems bizarre even for waywards, IMHO.

Very weird! Do you think she is possibly on some sort of mind-altering substance?

Yeah.

It's called adultry.

I don't think there's anything left to alter
...she lost it! (her mind!)

No one that I know of is trying to help WW anymore...even her own family is tired of her. They have been staying back in touch with me of late. I think they finally realized that I have the kids and I control who they see.

AB3,

This is my first post to you but I have been following your situation. WOW you are such a great inspiration. I realize you have had your ups and downs but overall you have done a fantastic job with the cards you have been given.

I also dealt with the adoption situation so I have been praying for you that all will go well as it did for me. Can you update on that and let us know how it's going? Is the date still 09/02?

THANKS

I spoke with Adoptions again last week. They say that 9/2 may not be realistic for a court date, but they did say that we should sign agreements sometime in September. Please keep praying...I'm ready to get this issue resolved.

Just spoke to attorney who informed me that WW has NOT came in to sign the official separation agreement. This forced me to call WW and ask what is going on.

First, she once again asked if our family could be "restored." Of course, I said absolutely not so she then proceeded to complain about our financial arrangement and not seeing the baby. It seems she felt that, if she just refused to sign and kept finding excuses, I would eventually cave.

I instructed my attorney to file as if WW had her own attorney if she has not came in by Wednesday. Enough is enough. WW did promise to go in today or tomorrow and sign and I let her know that this was her last opportunity to finish this without spending money on her own lawyer.

AW3,

You're doing a great job! If you get a chance and have some time on your hands, sickwithworry could use some words of support from you. He has read your entire story and you are an inspiration to him. He's on the verge of preparing for a Plan B and he's having a hard time.

I know you have alot on your plate, but coming from your perspective, I think it would mean alot to him.

Wow! That's flattering; but, to God be the glory!

I'll look up his thread later today.

keeping up with u too!

You are definitely an inspiration, especially how you've been able to lose/control your feelings for WW. I am still working that obviously.

Talk to you soon.

Update for those still interested!

Adoptions visited again yesterday. Placement agreements and finalization are slated for mid-late September (possibly two seperate hearings, though they do hope to combine the two). As of today and to my knowlegde, there are no more obstacles standing in the way of the adoption...not even WW!

...here's why:

Yesterday WW did visit my attorney and signed the complaint for seperation and divorce on grounds of adultery. She informed them that she was in agreement on every issue as per our agreement...I have FULL custody, I receive child support AND alimony, she has a VERY limited visitation schedule (no weeks during the summer, no spring breaks, no additional holidays, etc), she has NO VISITATION with the baby, and I keep ALL remaining property (not already divided up and taken to her new place...house, my SUV, furniture, etc.).

She also told my attorney that she DID NOT wish to attend the divorce hearing on November 13th. If all sails smoothly between then and now...I show up, a judge signs the agreement, and I'm free.

I hope I don't sound callous or unconcerned. I'm not jaded, I'm not depressed, I'm not mad at anyone, I'm not lonely...I am happy, content, and releaved. WW expressed that she had planned to refuse to sign the documents thinking that I would cave in and let her return to my home. Apparently, she realized that she is finally past the point of no return.

Odd thing...I came to MB hoping to find a way to save my M...a way to stop her A and achieve R...instead, what I found was a means to save my own sanity and myself...to the benefit of my children.

Thank again guys...you've all been great...even when I didn't listen to you (Stella...LOL!).

God Bless!

aw3,

You came away with what matters: Your kids.

You had the ball$ many BH's lack or lacked.

You came away with head held high.

Congrats for doing well for your kids. They deserve you in their lives, not the WW.