My husband doesn't have a job. Is bald and unattractive to me. Does not meet my needs sexually (In fact I had a wonderful affair that broke when the wife found out).

We are good parents and friends. I married him pregnant and never wanted to, even on that day. I can't get out because of the financial situation he caused.

I love my kids and I like him, but I feel like I am wasting my life and any hope of happiness. I pity him.

It took me about 30 seconds to decide what to write in response to your post.

......but i will resist.. the.. temptation.. to... puke... is ...overwhelming..

Can i have a little background here?
Why get married in the first place? Was it because of the pregnancy?

Does he know how you really feel?


I feel bad for the wife of the man you were cheating with. I don't know you personally (Thank god for that), but your actions clearly are..... disgusting.

How can we help you?

Are you interested in improving your M, or to get validation that its ok to be a homewrecker?

Im really trying not to get on the moderators bad side..

But.....is your husband........................A DANCER??

no no no, you got it all wrong man.... when you type it with alot of periods, the goal is to imitate william shatners horrible acting.

do ... you .. know.. whatimean.. spock?

I just want to know if you got paid for your services when you did the married man? I hope you at least got something for putting out before being kicked to the curb. Did he leave a FIVER on the dresser?

We finally agree on something....

except for the fiver.

I'm sure he only had to tell her how pretty and smart she was.

Why waste 5 dollars? WS are pretty good liars, and lying is free.

Are you INSANE??? You come to a place called MARRIAGE BUILDERS and call something as VILE as an affair "wonderful"???



Your poor husband and children...UGH...

What is it that you wish to accomplish by coming here?

Mrs. W

hhl is either a troll or a tramp...take your pick. Don't take "it" seriously.

I fail to see how this is relevant.


Where to begin...

He can't help being bald, unless he buys a rug (worse than bald), or gets cosmetic surgery (very costly). When your skin starts drooping like the Wicked Witch of the West at a pool party, you'll understand.

You find this man unattractive, but you slept with him anyway. Not only did you sleep with him, but you did so without protection.

What does that say about you?



Well, Mr. Perfect except for the fact that he stepped out on his family for a woman whose prior "best catch" is a bald, unattractive, apparently impotent, unemployed cuckold.

Other than that, he's great. :RollieEyes:

Q: If your affair was so wonderful, why didn't your "lover" leave his wife to be with you?

A: Because she was his wife, you were his ho....but keep telling yourself it was about the kids.


No matter how good a mother you are, you'd be better if you weren't being a cheater.

Since you are such great "friends", tell him about your affair. A good pal like that will understand.


Why would you get pregnant by someone you find so unattractive?

You didn't HAVE to marry him. This is the 21st century, not the 12th.

There is no debtors prison, and bankruptcy is not the end of the world. You're so big on your man being employed.....get a job yourself.


Your happiness depends on having the right man in your life? Pathetic. I walked in on my wife with another man, yet I've tried to make it work every single day for over 2 years now. Your husband isn't hairy enough, and needs a job. Boo-friggin-hoo. Grow up. In the next life, try getting married to someone who doesn't make you vomit before you get knocked up.


Finally, we agree on somethng.

troll...no way this is real.

Is this really real?

If so, then you have a problem, and it's not your husband. I'd say, 99.44% of the problem is you.

Sure, all of those things are issues. But the problem is how you look at them. If you look at them as defects, then that's what they'll be.

But if you look at them as an opportunity to live out your vows, what you promised on your wedding day, then things will look differently.

After all, how you look at the man with whom you had your affair, and how your husband might see him, knowing about the affair will be two different views.

It's likely that he would not see that man in the same way you see or saw him.

Same man, different perspective.

Perspective matters, and right now, you have a poor perspective. You have gone through some really rough times with your husband. But instead of seeing a man who was there with you, so see a fat bald guy who has trapped you.

What I see is a woman who wants to shift the blame for her choices and her unhappiness to her husband. It's far easier to blame him than it is to look at your own contributions. He didn't make the baby by himself. You were living in the home with him, so any spending is not just his fault, etc.

I don't see how you can say you are good parents and good friends when you choose to have an affair. Good parents don't cheat on the other parent, and good friends don't betray the other and then keep it a secret.

I'm sorry, but I think your perspective is warped.

I think you can develop a more healthy perspective. But the problem in not all your husband.

It may not be 99.44% you. But until you change your perspective, I will maintain that the biggest problem is not him, but how you choose to see him.

****edit****

Continuous,

I am a BS. My H has had multiple As, some produced children. I tried to be forgiving. I tried to take the high road. In the end I kicked his butt to the curb.

Finding a place where one can get support without being attacked would be an awesome thing ...do you have any ideas?

I am now the OW to a MM whose M was long ago over. His W and I know each other, she has a MM of her own.

I wonder if perhaps I should just say Me2?

{{Hugs}}
FloodCity

Folks this is a MARRIAGE BUILDING site!!!!!! It is NOT "affair builders". This is a place to get support for recovering, repairing and enhancing MARRIAGES.

Well gloryb. Boy are you in the wrong place. The sign on the door says MARRIAGE BUILDERS. Not HOME WRECKERS. Good Grief