can anyone suggest a decent AND FREE keystroke logger ?

TxPhilip,
I don't know any good, free keyloggers, but consider how long you need the keylogger for. Many of them offer a free trial period, and if you need to do this under the financial radar, you could try the week-long free trial (just an example), and then move to another one. Its not a long term solution, but it'll work in the short term.

Do you have a reasonable expectation that you will catch something? Does your wife use the computer at night when you aren't around? Or is this a shot in the dark situation?

she uses it a couple of times a week in the evenings and gets very upset when I'm near and won't get on anything except ebay if I'm already nearby

I would bite the bullet and buy one. Free keyloggers are not very good and will most likely be detected.

Medc,
The problem with Tx's situation though is that he is a SAHD, and probably can not hide the purchase from his wife.

Tx,
Sounds like you could get some good information in a week's time if you use the free trial of a good keylogger.

I like the All-in-One Keylogger. It will record all keystrokes as well as take screen captures at each mouse click or "enter" key.
http://www.relytec.com/

Install the trial (I believe its a week), and then give her a wide berth to allow her privacy on the computer. Give the kids a long bath or go play with them at the other end of the house or something.

If you don't get anything in a week, try a different keylogger.

thanks andrew I'll try that one

Yes...and the Keygen to get it running....But I won't.

Ask your wife point blank....cloak and dagger is a dirty game.

Your guts are telling you more than the Keylogger will. Maybe listen to your intuition rather than playing games.

It will only drive you nutz to chase her over the internet.

Are you kidding?
The VAST majority of people having an affair will NOT admit to it unless there is indisputable evidence, and sometimes not even then.

If his gut is telling him that something is going on, asking HER will not yield any satisfaction whatsoever, unless she is in the 1% that will readily admit it...but we already know from his posts that she isn't.

Sometimes you just have to snoop to find out the truth.

I asked my wife and she swore that she wasn't. I snooped and immediately found out the truth.

"Ask your wife point blank....cloak and dagger is a dirty game."

Asking an adulterer is not likely to result in them telling the truth. Adulterers lie. Asking them will just tip them off to go deeper underground.

Adultery and the entailing secrecy/lying/SNEAKING around is the 'dirty game'.

Adultery puts the BS at risk for STD's, financial ruin, and threatens the marriage and family with destruction.

There's nothing wrong with the BS doing what they can to protect themselves and their children from adultery, including getting info they have a right to know.

What gave you the idea that's what he would do with accurate information? Cyberstalking is more of an OW's pasttime than the pasttime of a worthy spouse.


A worthy spouse does not play games, SoulDragoN. Worthy spouses arm themselves with necessary tools and then strategize to effectively use those tools to help their wayward spouses free themselves from affairs and from the far reaching effects of those affairs. Playing games is typical of OW's and OM's.


Typically, doing that results in the WP and the OP taking their affair further underground and farther from the light of day. Btw, OW's and OM's tend to be uncomfortable anywhere near the light of day. You can probably guess why.


SoulDragoN, it is not uncommon for trolls to show up on boards such as this one on holiday weekends when MM's and MW's are busy enjoying it with their families. The timing of your first posts makes you suspicious.

If you are not a troll, you might want to read the info pages of this site this weekend to get an understanding of who and what this site is for and then come back to post on Tuesday when the regulars will have more time to post with you.


Enjoy your weekend.

Bingo! When a newbie shows up here and the first thing out of her mouth is "No don't snoop, that's not a good thing" the first thing I'm thinking is HERE IS OW. Who would be more inclined to discourage snooping than someone who is afraid of having their nasty little adultery found out?!

It could be an OW.....or it could be someone who is not yet educated on affair busting. That is why I give the benefit of the doubt until it proves out so that help is available to legitimate posters.

Besides, trolls tend to go away when they aren't able to get negative attention or incite drama and chaos so it's really not that big a deal to initially give the benefit of the doubt, imho. Legitimate posters tend to hang around, read the info pages, and ask questions.

Not a troll.

Have been in the same shoes....and did a few worse ones to prove it. Understand the pain and agony.
BUT:

1. You dishonor yourself.
[ that is what eats at a person more in the end...at least in my case]
2. Already knew there was a "problem'=Intuition<---Doesn't LIE.
[unless someone suffers from major insecurity issues...that is another thing]
Agreed. Which is why, IF your intuition and her actions are screaming that there is a problem...make your Actions regarding said accusation concomitant with the consequences of the crime. IF she is 'innocent' she will be HAPPY to prove it.

Have I been cheated on? Yes.
Did I dump him? Yes.
Have I electronically Spied on my SO? Yes.
[ ^^^Not the same person by the way...]
I didn't NEED to Spy....I already KNEW.
[hate myself for having done so, and not trusting my own gutz]
Your internal radar is going off right now, andn you are DOUBTING yourself. Don't..
Proof.
Adultery and Lying are bedfellows...I know that.

CALL her out on her sneaky behavior...amd let her know what the consequences will be thereof. Either way...she will spin like a doozy and make more mistakes. Nature of the Beast...they do that when backed into a corner...stories start to fall apart...things show up where they shouldn't.

You can get her to "slip up' by making statements that suggest you already KNOW..."something"...she will spin again. She won't be sure if you know or NOT...but she will drop more information trying to cover her tracks.

SEE^^^ I was a called a TROLL...but now you know more. Much of which I normally would NEVER ever want to admit to.

Ask a trusted family member to purchase a keylogger for you.

The best one, and we own it, is eblaster!

Any tool you can use to confirm what your intuition tells you is a worthy tool.

Asking an active wayward for the truth is like asking an alcoholic if they drink too much.........

confirming things before confrontation is the wisest course of action for anyone feeling that lies are being told.

The question I have for you is, what is going to be your plan of action if your keylogger shows you what you already suspect?

BTW, you DON'T dishonor yourself searching out the truth!
That is without a doubt one of the silliest things I've seen someone post on these boards.

IF you have a sense of honor...it WILL eat at you.

You can download keyloggers easily and run them with a keygen Free.

No money wasted.

Google Kmint they have a super small and easily hidden one...but need the Keygen to start up in stealth mode. Download from a site the ,,,erhhhm,,,,offers that sort of thing...if you know I mean. Virus check it first though.

Look for an 'older" version...you easily find the correct Keygen. No need to drag other people into your mess at this point. No traces on credit cards ordering online...no tracks.

Really? That is YOUR opinion. SPYING can bite you in the Backend IF YOU ARE WRONG!!! Your spouse will NOT trust you after that...not for a LOOOOOOOONG time...and for good reason. That would be "silly" don't you suppose?

So: Moral of the Story,
IF you feel that you NEED a keylogger based on your gut instinct...you have your proof.

Thats ridiculous. Its "untrustworthy" to cheat, its not "untrustworthy" to check up on a spouse. There is nothing a spouse does that is not the business of his spouse. A spouse does not have RIGHT to the privay to have an affair.

Snooping IS honorable. What is not honorable is having an affair. Snooping often serves to STOP affairs.

Regarding the "honor" thing -

Install the keylogger.


If you find nothing in 60 days, confess to your wife. Tell her that you were freaking out, which is the truth. It IS hard to spy, and it DOES put some worry into your heart. But it is not dishonorable if you believe your spouse is cheating on you to "trust but verify", especially if other routes have been tried and you have not been able to get enough information to be SURE that they are cheating.

But..... In the meantime, work on Plan A.

Because it is obvious your marriage needs some work, which is why you need a keylogger.

So while you are spying, you should also be doing the harder work of figuring out what is going on in your marriage that would make your wife want to stray.

Are you also doing that?

Another Possible Solution to Catch Cheating Spouse Are by using android spy software you can download from
http://www.androidspy.co

I don't suggest you to use free keyloggers, if you just need to use it for a few days, you can try a free trial one, like Spytech Monitoring Software .