Yes I really really told my wife.

I do wish I could put the amount of frustration I am feeling down for you to hear.

I do apologize for my initial postings here.

Ok, gotta ask....what does pippy mean? Is it another way of saying pi$$ed?

HU,
I have been following your thread and I do see some changes in your responses and attitude. This is good. Please keep coming here, keep reading and keep working on yourself. We all make mistakes but the only way to keep from repeating them is to realize what our short comings are and work on becoming a better person.

Hu,
I just wanted to agree with what Suamico said.
The only reason I started posting to you is because I also see some changes in you from 3 months ago.
Whether or not you have told your wife is for someone else to work on. I just want to help your marriage.
Anyway, this was more in line of a tentative support note.

How are you going with encouraging your W to utilise MB principles in your M?

I am sorry to hear about your MIL. My FIL died a couple of months ago and it is still something close to us.

BTW Suamico, yes pippy is sort of like pissy, but more in line with a childs tantrum

The MIL is doing well, found out the problems so she is coming home.

The wife is kind of working on it. She still very much just wants things the way they were(which I understand). I do keep trying to push the MB ideas, but I am getting tired of doing so. She seems to half way want to work on things, only to a point where she is comfortable/happy. Not getting the point that the idea is for both of us to be comfortable and happy to make all of this work. Did notice one thing this weekend when we had a talk. When we start to discuss our Marriage issues emotions very much get involved and get in the way. So I have asked her to see the MC 1 on 1. Hopefully then she can get a better idea as to why all of this is important to the marriage.

Personally I keep struggling with triggers and withdrawal. The fact the A did not die a natural death is very difficult to get out of my head. So I continue to focus on my marriage and journaling to get this crap out of my head. I can say I do run into days where I hate everything from the OP to my wife, because I am just not a happy camper. Which then makes for some difficult personal interactions. But it is what it is, nothing I can do about it but move forward.

That is a great idea. I understand your frustrations with her not wanting to get on board with MB. Do you remember how you felt when you came here and how much you struggled to accept the philosphy? I think us 'MBers' habe to understand it takes time for an acceptance to come. I was here asking for help april,and still fighting it up until mid June!

Sorry for not being able to find this info, how long have you been NC?

I think that is common for BS and WS alike. And yes, much as it sux, TIME is something we need to stand on along with fighting the good fight.
Your marriage IS worth it you know.

I have hope for you Hu