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Just curious,
Are there any recovered M's out there after being in Plan B for a year or more?
After more than a 1 year seperation, just wondering if recovery is even possible.
BS - me 56
XWH - 57
12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.
6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.
9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented
WH wants nothing to do with me
Divorced as of 12/09 after 36 years
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BS - me 56
XWH - 57
12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.
6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.
9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented
WH wants nothing to do with me
Divorced as of 12/09 after 36 years
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I think what I've seen is that the BS initiating Plan B decides that they don't want recovery after all. I can think of one case offhand and that's Believer. (I could be wrong about this!) They were divorced (I think) and then her XWH came back with eyes open but she had moved on.
Anybody else?
Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage
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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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Mortarman comes to mind. He was in plan B for a very long time and now he and his wife have a new little one.
BW(me)
DDay EA 4/05
DDay PA 6/05
In recovery
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Chai,
I admit I dont know your story, I only skimmed your posts as you seem to help so many people, its hard to see which ones are about you vs helping others...
I did run across this one asking about recoveries after 1 year of plan B.
It took me 18 months to wake up, and still have alot of waking up to do.
We are not in recovery, but I did want to point out that it IS possible. We men are slow learners, and even slower to admit we are wrong.
Me 31
Her 33
Married 6 + years, seperated 15 months
Relationship - 13 YEARS and hopefully counting.
Status - 10/5/2008 - Agreed to divorce.
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Thanks Silver. I'll look at your thread and learn your story.
BS - me 56
XWH - 57
12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.
6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.
9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented
WH wants nothing to do with me
Divorced as of 12/09 after 36 years
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Wasn't BrambleRose in Plan B for 18 months?
BS 52, FWH 53, Married 1-1-84
D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW
Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09
WH and OW broke up 1-09
Started over 7-09
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In order to understand my story, which is just beginning, you need to read Zora's story.
Me 31
Her 33
Married 6 + years, seperated 15 months
Relationship - 13 YEARS and hopefully counting.
Status - 10/5/2008 - Agreed to divorce.
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Thanks Silver.
Queenie, I don't know about BR. I don't know that I ever read her story.
BS - me 56
XWH - 57
12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.
6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.
9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented
WH wants nothing to do with me
Divorced as of 12/09 after 36 years
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I think I may have said that wrong.. I did not mean you will understand my story if you read her's..
What I meant was her story IS my story....
The story's I post start where her's end.
Me 31
Her 33
Married 6 + years, seperated 15 months
Relationship - 13 YEARS and hopefully counting.
Status - 10/5/2008 - Agreed to divorce.
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