I disagree and think that it is a valid point. I am grateful to not be saddled with someone that had a long term affair.

And Cinder...LG's "Hows about you?" were very pointed and disrespectful...and he knows it.

Mad
You do ALL those things for your husband and THATS how he treats you?? Unbelievable.

But, when I was in grad school I used went to a school that specialized in athletic training. So I took a class in personal training as well as athletics, nutrition, etc. I never got certified but from what I was told, the test would have been on the easy side. Anyway,I trained about a dozen people, for free. 3 of those were pretty overweight people. The two that lost BIG TIME weight BOTH were mean as hellll to their spouses, who were also overweight. I couldn't understand it. Instead of being understanding, they took on a better than you attitude. The only way I can see it is that they sacrificed to lose the weight, did it, and because they wanted it so bad, they can not understand why others don't want it just as bad. And after being the butt of so many jokes all their lives, I think they were just happy to be out of the victim position and into the joker position.

One thing though, and please try to understand. You can always lose weight. No matter what your body was like before, it can change. And you can be in as good shape as you WANT to be. Others may have an easier time of it, but there is no such thing a a predestined weight. If you want to be a size 4 you can be. BUT that DOESN'T mean if would be healthy for you. Just because you CAN be doesn't me you SHOULD be.

And if your husband wants you that small, regarless of the health factor, maybe the mean things being said about him are true.
Me, I would love to have a wife who did those things FOR ME, regardless if she was a size 12 or 4. You know, lose the weight, but do it for YOU, not him.

Well I guess facts are facts...let the mudslinging begin...

What is your point and how does it pertain to this thread? Your coming off like he has no right to give advice because he had an affair. They have moved on and past it, so why cant you?

Lets get back to the topic at hand, and its NOT LG's affair that he and his wife have recovered from.

My point was a response to LG's RUDE questions that he already knows the answer to...

HOWS ABOUT YOU?

If you have a problem with that, so be it....

Then maybe you two should start your own thread.

maybe you should mind your business.

Thank you.
I know that I can be lighter than I am now. H become a personal trainer for a period of time after losing his weight as well. There was a 6 month period of time in which I agreed to follow a very specific perscribed diet, and a very specific, prescribed diet. I weighed everything I ate, I worked 6 days a week. Without even knowing it -losing weight became my entire life - there was nothing else but work and dieting. I lost almost 30lbs (to a size 10)- and was miserable.
I decided that I could not keep that up, and had to reduce my intensity, and, of course, some weight came back on. Since then it has been a self-sabotage of knowing what he wants of me and pre-determining my failure. (which I know is completly MY deal, not his).
I now watch what I eat every day, I run 3 miles 4 times a week - I have 5k's to run each weekend in Sept :-)
All of this maintains my current size.
I am healthy, I am active.
I know I could be thinner - but at what cost? How many hours away from my family and friends? How much time obsessing over 3oz of chicken instead of 4... of 135g carbs vs 150g...

Sorry for the sidetrack.....

He doesn't have these wants and desires to be MEAN to me, he wants them and needs them as a part of his happiness. I don't think he is purposefully trying to belittle me - even if that ends up being the reality. He's a good man, even if he doesn't come off that way.

Youre post made a lot of sense. I can understand your feelings.
It's all whats worth it to you.

Perhaps you should talk to a nutritionist and a family doctor and ask them about your weight and if it is reasonable for you get get close to a size 4. Most likely the answer will be a BIG "no."

MEDC...

If I didn't like you, I'd tell you how much I spend on my hair and give you a coronary!

Hint: $175 is CHEAP my friend!

Mrs. W

I agree. I wish it were different for you - that has to be a bit hearthbreaking.

And Medc, get over youself already. You put it out there, its everyones business.

I wouldn't even do that.

I would focus on and negotiate the SF issue. I wouldn't sacrifice. And if he is unwilling to negotiate a solution that is good for both of you I would wonder what he has going on on the side.

That's actually not a bad idea...Perhaps a 'professional' opinion may help him understand, really, what he is asking.

:crosseyedcrazy:

Thanks for the tidbit Mrs W. And it is cross eyed crazy.

Keep this thread RESPECTFUL folks.

Your cooperation is greatly appreciated!

Thank you.

Why not go together? If he was a PT for a while, he should have had a better understanding of what he was doing... if he hears it from an outside source, he might grasp the reality that being a 4 isnt in the cards for you. Being healthy IS.

Crazy like a fox my friend!

Brace yourself: When I had extensions for a couple of years, I paid $1800 every 4 months...That didn't include highlights every 6 weeks!

Wait here, I'll go get the smelling salts!

Mrs. W

Sadly, many of his clients were 'gym bunnies' that simply wanted to 'tone up' and needed some guidance. I think somewhere in that head of his he knows how unreasonable his idea is, but for some reason he is holding tight to it.

Makes me kinda glad he built a home gym and quit being a PT.