My BF and I have been together for a year and 1/2. Things will go along great and I can feel the closeness, then he will do something to sabotage the relationship. I have been reading Dr. Harley's books and sharing information with him. We went almost two months without an argument and both worked on making deposits in each others love banks. Then one afternoon, he goes golfing and to have a couple of beers with his friends and I don't hear from him at all, he doesn't answer his cell phone and he didn't come home til 2:00 a.m. He knows stuff like this drives me crazy, and he did it anyway. It seems like each time we reach a new level of understanding, or become closer emotionally he does something to ruin it. Why does he do this and how can we make it stop?