I've seen these mentioned a few times as vehicles for internet A's. It didn't happen in my case but I can sure see how it could. The thing is, there's lots of reasons to have a myspace or facebook account. For example, my friend and I use ours to exchange photos of the kids - she moved away a few years ago and this really helps us keep in touch. I have a group of horse people where we keep up to date on our ponies and horsey events (and photos). And I was totally addicted to Scrabulus before the took that away. I don't have a huge collection of friends like some do but I have a few. But I can see how it could be dangerous.

So how do you all feel about it? Do you think it's different for a BS vs a WS vs a spouse in a marriage where adultery has never occurred? What precautions or restrictions would you insist on? Would these be different for your spouse than for yourself?

Hi Tabby,

LOL! I was just thinking about this because of someone's response on another thread and BOOM!! You came out with this thread!

I agree. They are social networking sites, not meat markets. My DIL has several "older" relatives that have accounts with either one or both myspace and facebook. To exchange family photos, etc.

I have talked to people I haven't been in touch with for years with mine. And you can kinda keep up with them and their families even if you don't talk a lot because of the little news feeds they have.

I wouldn't have a problem with a spouse using these sites. I would worry more about some of those highly addictive word games that you can play and challenge others to play with you.

But then, I don't go out browsing around looking at other's pages that aren't on my list, either. I guess that can become a problem for some.

Charlotte

I have a Myspace account so I can spy on my 26 yr old son! I post cute little messages to him, such as "son, is there a HO CONVENTION in town??" in response to all the FRESH messages these young girls send him! They are "getting up in his bidness!" [MrsW taught me that phrase - she is my cultural MENTOR ]

I have no problem with most of those type of sites unless the old friends you are trying to stay in contact with are past lovers.

So I do have a problem with reunion.com and classmates.com because the whole point of those is to get in touch with friends from high school. Of course I am little biased because my H's OW was his former high school girlfriend (graduted 1983).

VERY DANGEROUS FOR WAYWARDS.

One click and they are looking at OP's photo, etc. and getting their fix. All from the comfort of their home or office.

Hey, don't dis the word games!!!! Especially Scramble, Word Twist and my dearly departed Scrabulus (I need a support group! )

I have facebook and myspace. I created the accounts because the kids have them and I wanted to keep up with the kids. I also have some cousins and other family members on there now, and a few past co-workers.

I don't see it as being a problem if you treat it like any other interaction. While my "rule" is don't ever be with a male one-on-one, that's kind of impossible online. So my "rule" there is make sure my H knows I have the accounts and that he has my passwords.

I don't think he's ever bothered looking at them, but he can any time he wants. He's told me his passwords, too (but I've forgotten them, but I could ask and he'd tell me again). AND he's one of my 'friends'.

Nope. Not allowed at my house - even before FWH had an EA, I always thought those could be more trouble than they're worth. In my case it turned out I was right - it was one way he was trying to keep in touch with the tramp.

IMO you can just as easily exchange news, pix, etc., via e-mail.

Yeah, that's pretty much the way it is for us, too, Turtlehead.

I enjoy keeping up with my friends and family...and hopefully vice-versa...and lately that's the only way I can, considering our crazy busy schedules. Yeah, and I check up on my kids from time to time.

Yanno, come to think of it, the only men on my "friends" lists are relatives. I'm hyper-sensitive about that kind of thing. My H is very much aware of that, so he says my being on MySpace and Facebook isn't a problem for him. As for H, well, he doesn't "do" computers, lol.

I think I've said it before, Turt, but I'm glad you're back.

Funny DH and I were talking about this the other day. Neither of us has any interest in it. Poor DH is in IT so the last thing he wants is to be on the computer! We were talking about it because the kids were asking about getting accounts so they can chat with their friends. We haven't said yes or no yet but if we do let them we will have to make our own to check on them. When did my kids get old enough for this stuff?

To answer your question, I wouldn't have a problem with DH getting an account if I knew about it. If he got one and didn't tell me I would think that would bother me.

One nice thing is that I can CHECK OUT the girls who are pursuing my son ["getting up in his bidness" in MrsW speak ] by looking over their myspace pages. If she is a SKANK, I tell my son to avoid that girl!

What? Who? Me? Dis?



ITA!! Especially Word Twist! LOVE it!! LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE it!



Care to go a few rounds with me?



Charlotte

I'm on Facebook. I told my wife all about it, and she has my passwords and can access it at any time.

She was interested enough to make her own profile, though she doesn't check it often. I have her passwords as well.

We have each other linked as spouses. I make it very clear in my profile that I am happily married, and also that I am interested in the institution of marriage.

I think this is like any other kind of interaction. When I have conversations with women, I bring up my wife whenever I can, and always positively. Same on Facebook. People who know me know that I am married and that I love my wife. My profile makes that clear.

Mine does, too. It sends out that "Happily Taken" vibe.

I have bebo and facebook.
bebo was set up as H and DD16 had one and is continued now so i can see what DD16 is up to. H has deleted bebo account.

Facebook was started as H and OW had accounts, now i keep it because my mum, sister and broter are on it, and as my brother is on his very long and extended OE its the only way I can keep up with him. Again H has deleted his FB account.

We have discussed him setting up one under another name but havent really made any real moves towards it.

I am part of a private online mommy board - about 60 of us. Once in a while our site host goes down, so we all have MySpace to stay in touch when that happens. Its a great place to keep in touch with my out of town friends, too.

My H doesnt have one, and wont get one - their district requests that administration (and teachers) does not partake in those type of boards. He has open access to mine, knows who messages me, etc.. so we are fine with it.

My high score is 199. Do you think you can catch me???

I don't even have much time for MB, let alone anything else.

How do the WS's ever find the time?

Mel, is that boy of yours close to marriage? I can't believe some nice girl hasn't grabbed him.

SS

HE had a nice girl, SS!! And he dumped her after I flew them here for Thanksgiving! She was mother approved and everything! I feel cheated!

I think that these sites are no different than any other form of communication. I have a FB and some other message boards that I use - I have them set to auto log in and my wife has access to my computer password so I know that she can she everything that I do -