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Both of us are very middle class, value oriented individuals with a normal marriage with one kid....8 yrs into it and both are first time partners (no prior sexual exp.). We were quite happy in our life....but out of the blue hubby comes and confesses that he visited a prostitute in singapore just out of curiousity.....and that it was a big mistake and he had to tell me as he is really feeling guilty.....its just devastating for me....firstly i could not digest it and i couldnt even feel anger (am usually a hot tempered person) and quite clinically got all the gory details.....now the problem is he is totally physched about HIV scare and is really imagining all sorts of illnesses and symptoms...he had no sexual exposure out side marriage. He is forever chcking his body and the internet....
the sad part is i am consoling him, trying to give him support as i see he is not even able to have the mindset to deal with my trauma, pain and hurt...the humiliation...
he keeps saying sorry and asks for forgiveness but i dont know how to get over the hurt....
Also the mind movies are driving me crazy....
i am in a situation where i want him close to get back my old relation but at the same time i feel horrible that his body has touched a whore and he had sex with her.....just going crazy...
What can i do? rather is there anything he can do to make me feel better? He keeps asking me but i have no answers. Also i feel sorry my marriage probably feel sorry for him....am i being weak? am i compromising too much and will is back fire on me?
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Whaaa? H had no sexual exposure outside of your marriage but he [censored] a prostitute?  Is this for real?
BW - me
exWH - serial cheater
2 awesome kids
Divorced 12/2011
Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
--------Eleanor Roosevelt
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sadly....true....some of his co workers were going to the massage (s*x) parlours and he went out of curiousity (so he says....wanted to check it out)!!
he is so nervous now about HIV/STDs am going crazy with that....how do i focus my energy on donig sometihng abt my marriage....
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