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I've lost sight of what's normal, I need opinions...
H says he's 60 days sober. He refuses AA, MC, etc. He thinks my expectations are too high. I think he's still drinking. He said he'll do anything to save this marriage, he was never really an addict, but so far there's no action.
Pretend I'm your spouse and I say to you (in an almost begging way): "We're not making ends meet. We've cut expenses as far as we can. I'm working full time. We're going to lose the house if this continues. I need you to start making some money."
What would you do?
Married to addict
Separated 7/08
DD1
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WaterOak, I'm really sorry to hear about your situation. You know, if you were my spouse and you told me that, I'd work together to find ways to increase our income. You and you family are special, and I'd want to protect them.
But that isn't what happened, WaterOak. What can you do today?
Me 40, OD 18 and YD 13
Married 15 years, Divorced 10/2010
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I just get so twisted sometimes I feel like I'm living in the twilight zone. Would it be too much to want him to complete three applications a day? for anywhere... anything? I think that's normal but he doesn't. He said one a week would be good (and to date he's not even doing that). That's what I would do but I understand I'm a go getter and he's just not.
I think all I can do is call my lawyer at this point.
Married to addict
Separated 7/08
DD1
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NM, after very little snooping I found the evidence I need. He's hiding liquor and lying to me. I see we haven't left our old habits behind after all... can't say I'm really surprised.
Married to addict
Separated 7/08
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