Ummm, do you ever read what you post to me? We're not always talking about my fabulous helmet ay?

Its actually like a discussion Ayane and I were having off list once. We were giving each other great advice, fantastic in fact...and not using it ourselves.

Do you think that perhaps we all think that we're a bit 'different' from everyone else?

I have been noticing lately that some others on MB that I hold in very high regard, say the most awesome stuff to each other, but if you look at their personal threads...they're just as messed up as the rest of us.
Our own sitches make us :crosseyedcrazy:

Aw yer making me

Yep I totally agree, I see it in me and I see it in others... we can fix others probs in two shakes of a lamb's tail... no kiwi joke intended lol ... but we're totally blind to our own!

I wonder if *that* may be another twist to the parable about trying to get out a speck in your neighbor's eye and not seeing the log in your own? ... nah, that's totally different I think.

Anyways, thanks lil, for thinking well of me...

I'm just impressed you know that one


Interesting idea, hadnt thought of it....and have just the right person to ask. I'll get back to you.


Its not hard to think well of a good person, and you are.
I like you alot, your one of the people on my list of "People God sent me to make sure I don't completly screw up my life"

Is the value of the tickets so great, they are worth the stress?

Or should you let it go?

Haven't been online much, except to do some drive-by posting every now and then. Been busy busy busy...

We are now in the new town, living in a motel. For some reason his wireless was working but mine wasn't so I logged on as my alter-ego jayne142 using his computer. I started my new job last week, H starts his on Monday.

Remember the offer on my house that fell through? Well we got another offer, we countered, and they accepted yesterday!

Also, we've been looking and looking and looking at houses... last night we finally decided to make an offer on one. The offer was placed this morning, they countered, we counter-countered, they counter-counter-countered, we counter-counter-counter-countered, they signed! All in about a coupla hours!

Now all we need is for H's Canada house to sell, otherwise we hafta come up with a bit of money to top up the proceeds from my house, for the downpayment on the new house. But if all goes well, it looks like we'll close on Oct. 6!!!

jayne, thanks for sharing the good news!

Yay!

Hey Jayne,
I see you popping up and down over Mb. How about an update on your own thread??

Any nibbles on the canada house? Settling in ok? Boys taking it all in thier stride? H behaving?

Oh, I don't have much interesting to say on my own thread. Much more fun to play around with lil dudes!

No nibbles on the Canada house. I never trusted that real estate office. I suggest to H to call them, and he says that he can go online to check if there's been any showings and he knows there haven't been any. I say he should call the realtor in order to get them thinking about his house, to move his file back to the top of the stack. Otherwise out of sight, out of mind, and they'll spend their energy marketing other homes.

We will prolly have to borrow extra money in a bridging loan to come up with the downpayment if his house doesn't sell soon.

My house closes Tuesday. It was to be Monday but some docs didn't arrive in time to get FedExed back by Monday.

We are in a larger hotel room now, actually it's two bedrooms with a small common area with a sofa, chair, desk, dorm fridge and microwave. Not bad. It's clean even!

The kids are driving us grups :crosseyedcrazy: We are tempted to :twobyfour: Actually the kids are like this:
:twobyfour:
:crosseyedcrazy:

and we are like this:
:RollieEyes:

(kids in yellow, grups in blue)

(Does anyone else get the reference to grups? Star Trek speak for "grown-ups".)

This hotel has a pool right outside our door, and candy machines and games right down the hall. So far 6b has spent about $5 in American quarters on candy, tattoos and games. I now have a dolphin and rose on my wrist, it was too "girly" for them. For two days in a row 6a has tried to drown 6b (not really, he didn't think it was as dangerous as we did) in spite of the fact that 6b has been subsidizing 6a's candy, tats and games.

Big huge proposal due near the end of September :MrEEk: so it's nice to have a bedroom where I can shut the door, since for things like writing, I can work better at home than in the office. I work best with my feet up, like in bed.

Thanks for asking!

I just read another excellent post by ears that I think is very useful to me. So I hope it's ok if I copy and paste it here so I can find it and re-read it often.


Thank you ears for your insight!

Jayne, do you remember, you and LA were telling me to go get a cup of tea, and I was typing back, oh no, no time for tea, the kids have too much homework, H would be SO mad...

I had the tea. Everything was okay. I am grateful to have friends like you

Would you please do me a favor this time? Call the realtor in the morning? Do you have the willingness to do this for yourself? You know how it goes, outta sight, outta mind and all. Like JL says, you have more power than you know.

Thanks ears.

I'll see if H wants to call. It's his house and he's done all the interacting with the realtor, I don't even have the contact info so I'd have to ask him anyway. If it were up to me I'd call a different realtor and work with someone else. I've asked H if he's under a contract to deal with only that realtor but I didn't get a definite answer.

A close friend went through an errily similar situation, only with buying instead of selling, and they got pushed into a deal, which the reltor convinced the H was a good deal, without the W getting her concerns addressed, which turned out to be a really bad decision. Every one of her unaddressed concerns came back to bite them in a big way financially later. There are two of you because it takes two to keep their eyes opened and not be snowed by smooth talking.

Okay, now I'm repeating myself, which I'm trying to watch out for, because it's a form of control. Sorry, hon! I know that you'll get the information *you* decide that you need to make an informed decision.

::Nina backing away::

((jayne))

Grrrr, I'm in a bad mood, I'm having a bad day.

And I just saw a title of a post in "Latest Posts" that I thought might be appropriate for me today, "Suffering from PMS?" so I click on it... and get one of those annoying "Access denied" messages!!!!!

WHY WOULD YOU DENY ME ACCESS TO A PMS THREAD, TODAY OF ALL DAYS?!?!?!? ARE THE MODS *INSANE*?????







... Just looking at those two guys have at it cheers me up.

Jayne, can you finish this sentence for me?

My attitude is my _________.

Projecting here?

Anything you want to talk about? Noticed that you've been conspicuously quiet about personal stuff lately (((Jayne)))

jayne, I just did the night checklist, feel a little better. Do you think that would help you?

Aw ears.... "my decision." I know.

Actually I had gone to the mirror before posting. It still didn't help quite as much as watching those two lil blue guys rant and rave at each other.

But you'll never guess what happened. My H came home, and he actually came *to me* (not just in passing) and asked how my day was. And he sat on the bed and listened! And talked to me! For, like, 15 or so whole minutes! When the kids interrupted, he didn't use that as an excuse to leave; he came back to the conversation. And then he even laid down with me a few minutes! Wow.

Then we went to dinner. Not exactly relaxing, with the kids. But it was nice that he was willing to do that, and especially to talk to me. He even told me a bit about what he did at work.

I so know how that is. My H actually asked me about a doctor's appointment I went to, and I was so shocked I couldn't answer! My mind was racing, trying to figure out why he would be wasting time on MY issues. Wondering what he'd done wrong, lol.

Glad it turned out well.

That's so cool, jayne, how he can be your soft place to fall

Thanks cat, ears, yes he's being pretty nice ever since Friday.

Over the course of last week, I really withdrew, as a result of him leaving all the childcare stuff up to me. Before we even got here and started the school year, I told him I had a HUGE deadline of Sep. 24 (that hopefully is flexible) and that I know he's starting a new job with lots of responsibility, but so am I, and I just need him to do most of the stuff until after this deadline, then I can start doing most of the stuff since the kids' school is nearer to my work than his. But I REALLY need him to do most of the stuff for just the first 3 weeks of the school year, the first 2 weeks of his new job.

And he hasn't been. Even on the days when he said he'd pick the kids up, he hasn't. He has been against putting the kids in the only after-school care with spots open, wanting to hold out for the one that is right at their school but is all full up right now. Spots may open up as kids get involved in after-school sports etc, but by then my deadline will have passed! Meanwhile I'm having to leave work early to pick the kids up from school. A couple times he's said he would come home from work early to take care of the kids, but not early enough to pick them up from school, so I have to leave work anyway, he'd just be letting me try to get some work done at "home". Which isn't really home, it's the hotel we're staying at until we close on our new house. Which means that even if I go back to work when he gets here, everyone else will have left... and I don't have a printer in my office (supposed to be getting one) and the office that does have a printer will be locked and I don't have a key to it.

But even the times he's said he would come home early to take over taking care of the kids, "early" didn't mean much - once he barely got here in time for me to go in to teach my evening course!!! One night a week, that he knew about before we even got here, and he was supposed to pick the kids up from school just one day a week. Nope, ain't happening.

And when he *is* "watching" the kids, he's just on his computer - he isn't checking their bookbags for homework, helping them with it, reading to them, playing with them, anything. Except yelling at them when they get too rambunctious.

So all week long I've just been totally withdrawn. If he says something that's supposed to be funny or something, I just look away.

I was completely floored that he actually sat down and talked to me Friday night. He's been pretty nice ever since, too.

But still not promising to pick the kids up from school, OR doing anything with them other than making sure they don't kill each other.