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Ok.. So, I go to friends yesterday with the intentions of spending the night there with my kids.. .after a few beers, I'm missing my WH and call him to come and get me and the little one. He does and we spend the night on our boat.

This morning, we have breakfast and come home to do projects around the house together...good time...

So, what's the problem you say??

I come oneline to check in here, notice the history has been erased. I question WH about it, asking if he has contacted her via e-mail, IM's or whatever.. He denies.. finally states he erased the history because he went to look at redtube and being that the kids use the computer, did not want them to see someone accessing porn site...

Why don't I believe him?

Anyone know how I can track or recover what he did on the computer yesterday afternoon? I feel he's hiding something and I always trust my gut instinct

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Did you check the pc's cookies?

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Originally Posted by Dancing_Machine
Did you check the pc's cookies?

How do you do that?

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Unless I'm missing something (I'm a little computer savvy), it appears he deleted those too?

I can't find anything from yesterday afternoon...

And he used to be computer illiterate..

It seems someone has brushed up on getting rid of evidence.

I have been glued to this darn computer all day trying to search, retrieve, and collect some sanity..

WH state he hopes I will someday believe him.. I do too, but I also know that will not be anytime soon! naughty

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You could try to restore your computer to sometime yesterday as all files would be retrived - But the system had to set a checkpoint after his use / before he deleted in order to do that -

The porn story seems to make since. Emails are not stored in IE history. Only web use and page history.

Are you ok with the fact that he looked at porn?


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"Are you ok with the fact that he looked at porn? "

In general, I'm not OK but, I'd rather have that then him contacting the OW, if that makes any sense.

We had a period of 'exploration' wherein we'd watch porn together, of course this was Pre-A... He rarely uses the computer at home, again, just thought is was odd given everything that has occurred this past week.

I have my 16y.o. D, not wanting to live at home, my D 13yrs is just going along, my friends are all telling me to leave and I feel I just have some much at stake that I don't want to throw in the towel, yet.

I have set boundaries and since the initial occurred back in March and I 'survived' only to be hit by it again just over a week ago, I do know that I WILL NOT tolerate any contact! Period. I find out, my next move will be to be one my own with my girls PERIOD! Now, I also want to see what he's going to do with 'making things right' His attempts to complete the questionnaires, continue the NC, etc.

I have not set a time line, I just figured I'm going to work at providing EN and reduce/eliminate LB's and I know I'll know if I've reached the end of the line..

I have to say, I truly love this site. It seems I can see myself in bits and pieces of others that are here and it's good to know I've not 'gone crazy' like my WH told me on D-Day 9/12...


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