Has anyone had a really hard time on the one year anniversary of dday? My husband and I were doing wonderful until the year anniversary came up. During this time I found out an old co-worker had been having an affair with someone at my old job. Well that night I had a terrible dream about my husband leaving me for the OW and since then I've been a wreck. It just brought back all those terrible feelings and bad times. Let's just say things have not been good at home. I've been in this horrible mood and have had a sick feeling in my stomach that he's seeing her again and my husband tells me I have no reason to think that way. He says he loves me and wants to make our marriage the best ever. I know he's very frustrated and I am too but I don't know how to stop the obsessive thoughts?

Anybody else go through this? I am so confused because we were doing so great. He says we need to go to counseling.

Most people have a hard time at 6 mon ths (kind of like buyers remorse) and also on the first anniversary of D-day. This will pass. So sorry you are feeling down. As the years pass, the triggers will get less and less powerful.

Try to take good care of YOU, and do something to soothe yourself.

One year after Dday was extremely difficult for me. I wasn't marking it on the calendar but I must have been subconsciously aware of it. We were in Disneyworld having a great time and then I just got overwhelmed. I had something like a flashback to Dday. FWW was doing nothing wrong and certainly nothing to trigger me. It was so bad that I almost went to Plan D then and there. Then there was the incident with the Miami police in the airport and the rest is now something of a blur. One year out I was still pretty fragile and we had had NC for only about 6 months. Even now after three years, events and anniversaries have their effect but it is not so intense any more. The pain does dull with time. I don't think we needed counseling - I think I needed counseling.