Hello Everyone,

I sure hope you can help me. I am very distressed about this issue that its killing me and not sure how to handle it....

About a couple of days ago, I found a piece of paper with the name "Tracy" on it with a cell number on the counter, Well, I asked my 16 yr old son he says he doesn't know a Tracy and the same for my 12 yr old daughter, when I confronted hubby about it he says its not his either and the only TRACY he says he knows of is at work..(hes a deputy) but says he doesn't KNOW her...well he is the only one who knows of a TRACY, me and my kids do not..(btw he is my kids step dad)...He seems to think it belongs to me when I DON'T even know a TRACY...anyway, he denies it's his handwriting and everything else...but the question is HOW DID IT get on MY counter...I believe he might be lying to me..is it wrong to ASSUME, since I don't get any sex nor affection from him, i'm the one who has to GO TO HIM, for it, which I stopped because it just didn't feel right always going to HIM for things.

Anyway, i'm not sure on what to do about this situation...I am afraid to call the number because I don't want to feel like an idiot. I feel like He's takin advantage of me cause I DO everything!!! Bills included, work...kids...you name it I do it...even going to get things for him..which THAT PART..I stopped! Anyway, any advice would be greatly appreciated...I just don't understand any of this...can't talk to him about it he just refuses or denies everything..causes a HUGE CONFLICT!

Thanks for your time....

Joanie

Simply call the number. Explain that you found it on your counter and wondered who's it was. No harm or shame in that. You could also enter it into a reverse phone search on the net. There are plenty to choose from.

Hi Joanie,

Before you panic, here are a couple things to consider:

1. Tracy is a unisex name. Granted it is rarer as a male name, but I have seen it and have known guys named Tracy in my lifetime.

2. Tracy is a common surname. It could be a last name, and it could belong to a plumber for all you know.

Reverse searches don't typically work on cell phones, so really your only recourse is to call. Why should you feel guilty about doing so? You should not. It was on YOUR counter in YOUR house.

So call already. If they answer, just tell the truth, that you found their number in your house and were concerned (you can fudge a little here) because you have teenagers and wanted to be sure it wasn't a drug supplier's number or some stranger's they met on the Internet. Just laugh it off, "You know how overprotective us Moms can be!" If it's a female, it might be wise to throw in a casual comment about your husband the deputy somewhere and gauge a reaction.

If they don't answer, or there is no voice message that indicates who the owner of the number may be, try again later.

There could be a perfectly innocent explanation, but consider too that your kids could be lying and not your husband, and in that case you may have other things to worry about.

Let us know what happens.