Originally Posted by MelodyLane
This is hopeless as long as they continue to work together. If I were in your shoes, I would recognize that and start making plans to go into Plan B if you want to save your marriage.

But I will emphasize again, recovery is impossible until all contact ends.

I know, I know you told me and so have so many others, even if A has ended (and I really think it has) they STILL cannot continue to work together. Everytime he sees OW he triggers, and I...well we all know what I do, freak out on a daily basis. Well, now he is gone, living with my in-laws.

So, what do I tell the kids? Dad will be staying somewhere else (Grandma & Grandpa) for a while, so we can work on a few things? Visitation while seperated, how does that work? I think I read that you have a mutually nuetral person to speak to him on my behalf? But he and I actually do not talk?

I need to stay seperated until he gets another job? Even if it means moving to another state right?

BW (Me) 40
WH 40
D-Day March 2008
Co-Worker Affair lasted 13 months