i've posted my story once, in general questions II, but to give the the jist, wh had an ea lasting about a month with his ex girlfriend from high school. we've been in counseling since, but still fighting, with me being torn apart. i found this site less than a week ago and have read so much! it makes so much sense it's just ridiculous. i've printed out the material for my husband to start reading through and we've done the EN questionaire, and the LB one too. I would also consider us fully into plan a. he has severed contact with her, and we're both trying very hard to be the best spouse we can be to the other. a couple days ago she sent him back a love letter in the mail that he had written her. i knew nothing about it and felt thrown back into a state of depression. it was only temporary and the next day i looked at things clearer and decided this was just an attempt at her trying to instigate a fight and come between us.

now to my question. yesterday, we had an absolutely AWESOME day. it was simply wonderful. went went through our worksheets and talked about them, then spent the rest of the day together doing recreational things and just loving each other. we were both so thrilled about the way the day went, but i can't help but think, am i fooling myself to think things are going so well? it's only been a short amount of time? should i be more careful? i just don't know where this came from, it's so foriegn that i don't know if it's right or not. i bet this question seems really stupid...

Not stupid at all. Just be careful. From what I have read and from what the MC has said, things progress at different paces for different people. My WW and I have reconnected fairly quickly and every now and then I find myself wondering if it is real. Don't drop your guard.

Two thoughts occur to me as I read your post.

1)Many couples go through a "honeymoon" period right after D-Day.

2)Be careful not to "sweep the A under the rug" and think that you don't have to deal with it because everything seems fine now.

This doesn't mean that things AREN'T going well. It's just that there are MANY things to deal with after an A and often many ups and downs.

If you suddenly feel as if you are on a rollercoaster and are plummeting downward it DOESN'T mean that all is lost and that this "sweet" period was an anomaly. It's just that for the majority of couples, recovery really IS a rollercoaster ride.

A week after D-Day, My H and I went on a long planned vacation. It was THE BEST vacation we have ever had. But we have definitely been on the rollercoaster from H***.

Many of the vets on here will tell you that recovery is not for the fainthearted.

Keep reading and posting and doing everything you have been doing.

Blessings to you and prayers that the ride stays smooth.

WH2LE