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Married 22 years dated 6. She began threatening divorce a couple of years ago and has left a few times over that time. She stays at her mom's and has been gone for up to two weeks.
She is now gone again and has been for 17 days following a fight. The counselor has told her not to talk to me and not to share with her family or friends because they may share with me.
She has claimed I am controlling. Yet I am so confused because everything I read and every test I have taken says the opposite. According to much research I have done, she fits the classic definition.
Can anyone tell my why a counselor would advise her to not talk to me at all?
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Joined: Oct 2008
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Well personally I can't imagine why on Earth your counselor would advice such nonsense. It is obvious that your wife has commitment issues. Otherwise she would stay with you even after a fight. Does her family have that big of influence on her? Because to me you should be communicating not ignoring each other. Is your counselor a man or woman? That just seems insane to me.
I believe in the belief of one's self.
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I guess I should have thought to myself the source of the information. It came from her mother who said to me that is what her daughter told her.
Now I am beginnig to wonder. More so if I am a little slow.
Oh, the counselor is a man.
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She obviously snowed the counselor with HER version of things. Ignore him.
Snoop to see if she's having (had) an affair.
Visit her family and ask for their help.
Stay proactive.
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