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Joined: Jul 2008
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W and I seperated in June after a big blow out with MIL. W ende up filling for D.
We have been going to coaching, seeing each other as in dating and such. She seems to be doing the bare min in coaching. She does have me helping her at house with a lot of "chores" etc.
She also has OM, not sure how serious they are.
she tells me the other day, "I care but I don't think I can love you". Odd thing is that she had told me that she likes who I have become, treatment for anger issues, more than she ever has. She also allows me to be at the house a couple times a week.
She is the type that if she didn't want somebody around she wouldn't let them be there. She also told coach two weeks ago that she does have hope for the future. Now this. I don't get it. I don't thing the walking a way from her would work on her as it gives her an easy out and wouldn't keep working on us. However I am feeling like she is getting her cake and eating it too. The OM thing is eating me up, I have lost 50+lbs since June and this doesn't help. Gotten to the point where I have even looked into suicide. I do call a friend or counciler when feeling this way but no sure how long I can put up with this without it ruining me mentally.
Any ideas? What do you suggest with the W that says " I don't know if I can love you"? Keep trying, and for how long?
Thanks in advance
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Please seek help if you are having suicidal thoughts. Your WW's adultery is not worth your life. Anti-depressants may be prescribed.
WW is going to flip flop daily since OM is still there to influence her. Expose the affair to her family, yours, and OM's.
BW - me
exWH - serial cheater
2 awesome kids
Divorced 12/2011
Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
--------Eleanor Roosevelt
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Please make your post on General Questions. There is more traffic there and you will get more help.
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