Hey guys-

Well I'm back. WH and I have been back together for a year...and now he says he's moving out.

I'm done. I have been through this too many times. They'll be no Plan A/Plan B......he hasn't even attempted to make this work....and I'm frankly tired of trying.

This has been going on for almost 4 years now....and I can't take anymore.

I put a keylogger on my computer, and he's talking to some girl he grew up with via My Space, and I've caught some of her correspondence with him.

I'm so over this. I'm not upset, I'm not crying. One can only take so much. He will NEVER be trustworthy.

-Caren

Caren,
I feel your pain. I spent the last 17 months trying to get my wife on board with recovering the marriage after her first affair. She said she wanted to, but it turns out she just wanted it swept under the rug. When I wouldn't let her continue to lie to my face about what happened, she blamed me for not getting over it and she went out and had another affair while deployed.

Like you, I reached the point that I was simply done with her. We can show them the path, but we cannot make them walk it. Some people are just too weak to admit they have faults and then work to correct them. I have initiated the divorce proceedings and I am feeling better daily now that I have removed myself from all the drama.

Its scary going into an unknown, unplanned future, but that doesn't mean that it won't be bright. Time to focus on you and do some of the things you always wanted to do.

Best of luck to you!

Hi Caren!!

Sorry you are back.

I have wondered sometimes how you were doing, I know how hard you struggled with the plans here, and how much you struggled with your finances.

I was off MB for about 2 years, I mostly just lurk, as MB is a bit of a changed place these days.

Are you in better financial shape this time? What have you done for yourself? How are your children doing?

Please update and tell us what has happened since you quit posting last time.

to you girl! JFO doesn't get so much traffic. Maybe you could move have the mods move your thread to GQII for more feedback.

So.....do you have a plan for your personal recovery this time? What has happened that your lovebank is empty and you are finished?

Go ahead and rant dear!!! (I wrote that just so I could use that emoticon.) LOL!!

Take care, God Bless!!!!

Love in Christ
Miss M

It's good to hear from you but yet I'm sorry you're back. I have often wondered where you were and how you were doing.

{{{{Caren}}}}}

Great to see you...and no matter what you choose, you have your changes for the rest of your life.

Doesn't depend on him...doesn't say a thing about you.

Maybe this is what it takes for you to really know this, all the way through.

LA